Looks aren't everything in a relationship, but it is still important to be attracted to your partner.
So one woman was understandably gobsmacked when her ex said she wasn't his usual type. She was especially baffled as he was the one who chose to date her.
The couple had been in a rocky "on and off" situation for 11 months post-split, with her begging him to change and him not budging an inch. However, when she discovered he'd moved on with someone who was "exactly his type", she saw red, slamming him for trashing her "self-confidence".
Explaining on Mumsnet, she wrote: "I'm blonde and girly. His type is either goth or Asian. He made me feel like s*** for not being his type. Told me I am his only type but then proceeded to make me feel the opposite with s*** he says eg 'brown hair is my favourite'."
The woman managed to cut ties with her ex for a solid two weeks, but when she heard about his new flame, she couldn't resist firing off a scathing text.
"I've now sent him a f***ing essay of passive-aggressive s*** basically that I'm happy for him but he's a liar and a cheat and then blocked him", she raged. Yet she fretted that she might have just handed him "the upper hand" by showing she's still "bothered" after learning he's shacked up with someone new.
She said: "He's a narcissist and a cheat and an a**hole but I am still bothered". Following the rant, people in the comments advised her to take a step back, assuring her that she'd soon move on.
One person advised: "You don't need the upper hand, he's history. Give yourself a week to feel upset and angry and then get on with a calmer, nicer life without him." Another chimed in: "Just break up with the idiot. Why are you allowing this s***? ".
A third commenter weighed in: "You are being unreasonable by putting anything down to looks. Sounds like there was a lot more wrong with your relationship than you being blonde and girly.."
They continued: "Do yourself a favour and don't dwell on your appearance you're wrecking your own self-esteem. Oh and stop texting him, he's moved on. And TRUST me, you will too. But you have to go no contact first."
