Marriage is one of the most significant decisions someone can make in their life. And even if you have a loving, healthy relationship, it can come with challenges. So, men, if you are married or have ever been married, we want to hear your perspective.
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So, men, what are the hardest parts of marriage that no one talks about?
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Maybe you absolutely love your spouse and family, but you've felt overwhelmed by the number of responsibilities you have — such as kids, finances, etc. — and even though you love your life, it's actually hard not to have any time for yourself.
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Perhaps you realize you're very hard on yourself and often feel pressure to be a "perfect" spouse, and you've never had the chance to talk openly about it.
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Or maybe marriage has challenged you to be open and vulnerable in a way that you previously hadn't been — and it's required a lot of self-reflection and therapy to work through personal issues that kept coming up.
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Or perhaps you've had moments in your marriage where you felt like you made a mistake marrying your partner, and you NEVER expected to have any doubts about that decision.
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