JOY Langley

Discover simple & Actionable Strategies To Tackle Stress

This book was written during the sad and uncertain times of the global pandemic in 2020. Stress levels were through the roof. And across the globe, no one knew how to stop the spread of the killer Covid virus.

I was excited to do my bit to help - publishers Trigger UK invited me to share my perspective as a stress management therapist - and I said "yes !"

This easy reader talks about the symptoms of stress… Show more

Discover simple & Actionable Strategies To Tackle Stress

This book was written during the sad and uncertain times of the global pandemic in 2020. Stress levels were through the roof. And across the globe, no one knew how to stop the spread of the killer Covid virus.

I was excited to do my bit to help - publishers Trigger UK invited me to share my perspective as a stress management therapist - and I said "yes !"

This easy reader talks about the symptoms of stress, situations that stress us, and what steps you can take to navigate it by crafting your own unique solution.

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Find the steps and strategies that help you move from stress to strength & handle challenges with greater confidence. An easy reader you can follow along at your own pace.

>Combining the basic neuroscience of stress & anxiety, with practical can-do advice.
>There is no one-size-fits-all all solution.” Mix and match ideas and strategies to suit your needs.
>Analyze what situations push your buttons! Build and track your own psychological strength metrics.
>Build your personalized solution.
>Drop the shame & guilt so you can stop feeling 'bad' about yourself.

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In this two-part episode, Arivee speaks again with former guest emotional intelligence coach and therapist Joy Langley. Joy was previously on episode 86 of the podcast, where she shared her story and how to navigate stressful and difficult times.

Joy is an emotional intelligence coach & stress management Therapist based in the UK. She is also the author of “Navigating Stress” (released in 2021). Having a deeper level of emotional intelligence is critical for leadership (self-awareness… Show more

In this two-part episode, Arivee speaks again with former guest emotional intelligence coach and therapist Joy Langley. Joy was previously on episode 86 of the podcast, where she shared her story and how to navigate stressful and difficult times.

Joy is an emotional intelligence coach & stress management Therapist based in the UK. She is also the author of “Navigating Stress” (released in 2021). Having a deeper level of emotional intelligence is critical for leadership (self-awareness, emotional management and regulation, motivation, empathy, and interpersonal skills).

Joy is a specialist confidante to entrepreneurs who want to break emotional triggers. By using her T.E.S.S.A framework entrepreneurs quickly move through their triggers. Regaining clarity and focus without losing time, money or their sanity. This select group of entrepreneurial leaders recognise the power of having a healthy mind, positive attitude and mindset. Because you can’t build the business until you build the entrepreneur.

In this conversation, Arivee and Joy talk through the emotional side of the human experience, and what has to happen for you to want to make a change in your life. We talk about the power of choices, self-esteem, and how to operate from an abundance mindset. Show less

In the second part of this episode, Arivee speaks again with former guest emotional intelligence coach and therapist Joy Langley. Joy was previously on episode 86 of the podcast, where she shared her story and how to navigate stressful and difficult times.

Joy is an emotional intelligence coach & stress management Therapist based in the UK. She is also the author of “Navigating Stress” (released in 2021). Having a deeper level of emotional intelligence is critical for leadership… Show more

In the second part of this episode, Arivee speaks again with former guest emotional intelligence coach and therapist Joy Langley. Joy was previously on episode 86 of the podcast, where she shared her story and how to navigate stressful and difficult times.

Joy is an emotional intelligence coach & stress management Therapist based in the UK. She is also the author of “Navigating Stress” (released in 2021). Having a deeper level of emotional intelligence is critical for leadership (self awareness, emotional management and regulation, motivation, empathy, inter-personal skills).

Joy is a specialist confidante to entrepreneurs who want to break emotional triggers. By using her T.E.S.S.A framework entrepreneurs quickly move through their triggers. Regaining clarity and focus without losing time, money or their sanity. This select group of entrepreneurial leaders recognise the power of having a healthy mind, positive attitude and mindset. Because you can’t build the business until you build the entrepreneur.

In this conversation, Arivee and Joy talk through the emotional side of the human experience, and what has to happen for you to want to make a change in your life. We talk about the power of choices, self-esteem, and how to operate from an abundance mindset. Show less

“A personal problem is distressing whatever life stage you are at. This is the main reason I focus on using easy-to-understand language and tools, with a dose of humor to help psychological ideas stick."

-Joy Langley

Within the crucible of stress lies the opportunity to forge our inner strength, transforming adversity into a powerful catalyst for personal growth and resilience. Join host Patrick Veroneau as he sits down with Joy Langley, a stress management coach and the author of Navigating Stress: How to Find Calm During Stressful Times. Today, Joy delves into the profound concept of transforming stress into strength, a topic of utmost relevance in today's fast-paced world. Patrick and Joy explore the… Show more

Within the crucible of stress lies the opportunity to forge our inner strength, transforming adversity into a powerful catalyst for personal growth and resilience. Join host Patrick Veroneau as he sits down with Joy Langley, a stress management coach and the author of Navigating Stress: How to Find Calm During Stressful Times. Today, Joy delves into the profound concept of transforming stress into strength, a topic of utmost relevance in today's fast-paced world. Patrick and Joy explore the transformative power of navigating stress and embracing it as a catalyst for personal growth. They share strategies on how to be empowered to reframe your relationship with stress and unlock your inner resilience. Tune in now and embark on a journey of self-empowerment and transformation Show less

Stress management is crucial for maintaining overall well-being and coping with the challenges of daily life. Here are the 10 best stress management tips you can learn about today.

1. Identify the Source: Recognize the main causes of stress in your life. Understanding what triggers your stress can help you find effective ways to manage it.
2. Exercise Regularly: Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural stress relievers. Engaging in regular exercise can improve your… Show more

Stress management is crucial for maintaining overall well-being and coping with the challenges of daily life. Here are the 10 best stress management tips you can learn about today.

1. Identify the Source: Recognize the main causes of stress in your life. Understanding what triggers your stress can help you find effective ways to manage it.
2. Exercise Regularly: Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural stress relievers. Engaging in regular exercise can improve your mood and help you manage stress better.
3. Practice Deep Breathing: Deep breathing techniques, such as diaphragmatic breathing, can activate the body’s relaxation response and reduce stress levels.
4. Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness practices and meditation can help you stay present, reduce anxiety, and cultivate a calmer state of mind.
5. Set Realistic Goals: Break down tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Setting achievable goals can prevent feeling overwhelmed and reduce stress.
6. Time Management: Organize your time effectively by prioritizing tasks and avoiding procrastination. This can help you create a more balanced and less stressful daily routine.
7. Establish Boundaries: Learn to say no when you feel overwhelmed. Setting boundaries with others can help you avoid taking on too much and prevent unnecessary stress.
8. Seek Social Support: Talk to friends, family, or a counselor about your stressors. Sharing your feelings can be cathartic and can provide new perspectives on managing stress.
9. Limit Screen Time: Excessive exposure to screens, especially before bedtime, can disrupt sleep and contribute to stress. Set aside time for relaxation away from electronic devices.
10. Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and practice gratitude daily. Gratitude can shift your perspective and improve overall well-being.

Everyone is different, and what works for one may not work for another. It’s essential to explore various stress management techniques. Show less

We are all unique and we each respond differently to every situation. Reducing stress is possible for every one of us but you will need to create your own unique blueprint of coping mechanisms in order to do so.
This book will show you just how to do that, with practical tools and memorable strategies to help you put together your personalized stress plan.

After reading this book you will be able to deal quickly with real or imagined dangers. Along the road, you will… Show more

We are all unique and we each respond differently to every situation. Reducing stress is possible for every one of us but you will need to create your own unique blueprint of coping mechanisms in order to do so.
This book will show you just how to do that, with practical tools and memorable strategies to help you put together your personalized stress plan.

After reading this book you will be able to deal quickly with real or imagined dangers. Along the road, you will discover:

• What stress is and why it happens.
• What causes it, and how it can help as well as hinder you.
• Why you need to understand and care about it.
• How to control it.
• Life-long coping strategies and soothing skills that you can tailor to your own individual needs. Show less

"You are a good listener and know how to turn the negatives into positives. I always left the sessions feeling positive. I have never done this sort of thing before, and you made me think outside of the box. I was a worrier who never thought she was "good enough". But I now feel I am. "
-Female Client 40yrs young (8 sessions)

"I gained from my time with you, not only the skills to deal with the depression at the time, but also given the techniques and tools on how to cope with any… Show more

"You are a good listener and know how to turn the negatives into positives. I always left the sessions feeling positive. I have never done this sort of thing before, and you made me think outside of the box. I was a worrier who never thought she was "good enough". But I now feel I am. "
-Female Client 40yrs young (8 sessions)

"I gained from my time with you, not only the skills to deal with the depression at the time, but also given the techniques and tools on how to cope with any future problems that I may face. Something that I use and am grateful for every day. (Thanks for everything Joy)."
-Male Client 18yrs young (6 sessions)

"I was taught that your mind compartmentalises things from the past and you bring out all your old fears. This then escalates to a full blow panic attack. I have now learnt calming techniques to stop this happening at the first sign of feeling light headed."
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"Super Helpful! My biggest takeaway from the mini course is recognizing how negative thoughts are such a huge contributor to stress. I’ve been my own worst critic and that is not helpful. The work your doing is much needed and appreciated. Thanks again for helping people gain awareness and improve their lives. You’ve touched my life to be sure!" - Nicole Larsen

"I really struggled before the course - now I have found that I am much more kinder to myself, the course has enabled me to… Show more

"Super Helpful! My biggest takeaway from the mini course is recognizing how negative thoughts are such a huge contributor to stress. I’ve been my own worst critic and that is not helpful. The work your doing is much needed and appreciated. Thanks again for helping people gain awareness and improve their lives. You’ve touched my life to be sure!" - Nicole Larsen

"I really struggled before the course - now I have found that I am much more kinder to myself, the course has enabled me to regain a belief in me that I never thought I had!!!! Thanks so much!!!"
-Kavina Kamat

"Loved it. Great course really loved the way you explained the effects of stress and how to recognise and manage it...I will never think of a simple cup of TEA in quite the same way! Can't wait for the next one."
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Love and Connection: Deep emotional bonds with partners, family and friends. People add to our happiness! And strangely enough can make us ‘feel’ emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually stronger.
Health and Well-being: Is it possible to have a business or a personal life … without good physical and mental health??
Safety and Security: Physical safety, financial security and a home reduces anxiety, and increases peace of mind and stability.
Freedom and Independence: We need to… Show more

Love and Connection: Deep emotional bonds with partners, family and friends. People add to our happiness! And strangely enough can make us ‘feel’ emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually stronger.
Health and Well-being: Is it possible to have a business or a personal life … without good physical and mental health??
Safety and Security: Physical safety, financial security and a home reduces anxiety, and increases peace of mind and stability.
Freedom and Independence: We need to feel we are the masters of our own destiny otherwise we lose positivity and 'hope.'
Purpose and Meaning: Finding a sense of purpose, whether through work, hobbies, or altruistic activities, gives life direction and significance.
Respect and Recognition: Feeling valued and acknowledged by others contributes to self-esteem and greater self-fulfillment.
Happiness and Joy: The pursuit of happiness? We shouldn't try to chase happiness, but we can create more memorable pockets of 'joy.’
Knowledge and Growth: Human beings are curious. Learning and personal development boosts happiness plus creates innovative services & products.
Peace and Harmony: Many seek this internally or externally. Via relationships, a spiritual practice or within society and the environment.
Nature and Environment: An appreciation for the natural world is a must. Building a sustainable environment for future generations is everybody's business.
Legacy and Impact: The desire to leave a positive mark on the world and to be remembered as someone who ‘did a good thing.’ A small reward for being a visible or invisible hero.
Equality and Justice: Creating a level playing field for all with strong societal structures in the area or profession that matters to you.
Life is short and eternity is long ...if you believe in the things that I do.


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It's no secret. And I spend a lot of time reminding you. I am an over-achieving over-thinker. So let's enter a room we haven't explored very much ...the very nature of how we think.
It's high time we addressed the 'Elephant In The Room.'

...THOUGHTS HAVE POWER

Because without thoughts - we wouldn't be the emotional, rational beings we are (most of the time). Trying to have our best life. Whilst finding deep relationships, meaning and purpose on earth.
Our thoughts create… Show more

It's no secret. And I spend a lot of time reminding you. I am an over-achieving over-thinker. So let's enter a room we haven't explored very much ...the very nature of how we think.
It's high time we addressed the 'Elephant In The Room.'

...THOUGHTS HAVE POWER

Because without thoughts - we wouldn't be the emotional, rational beings we are (most of the time). Trying to have our best life. Whilst finding deep relationships, meaning and purpose on earth.
Our thoughts create feelings. Which in turn spur actions. Which leads to results. It's a powerful, yet often overlooked cycle of feeling, thinking, and doing.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Understanding Our Inner Universe
By identifying and labelling our own feelings. It empowers us to navigate our emotional landscape. And helps us decide what to do next.
The problems start when we ...meet other people!

NAVIGATING THE WORLD OF OTHERS

Each person brings their own set of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors into the mix. No! we cannot read their mind. But ...through developing your Emotional Intelligence skills, we can get pretty close. And this helps build stronger connections. Which in turn builds ... better business and personal relationships.

POWERS OF PREDICTION
Predicting other people's thoughts or feelings accurately is in reality - just your best 'guess.' But we can start to imagine what is going on in someone else's world by ...their tone of voice ...body language ...and behaviour. It can be tricky! But it's a crucial skill well worth practicing. Simply because it builds and strengthens rapport. It enables us to communicate effectively in business and stay in harmony with those around us.

POWER OF COLLECTIVE THINKING
Here's the bigger picture. When multiple minds work together, the outcome is exponential! Not merely additive. It's like a supercharged brainstorming session that far surpasses the 'combined brainpower' of the individuals involved.

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Can the acronym "SHINE" help you wake up to a simple life equation?
Poor health = Struggling Business
Struggling Business = A Poorer You
A Poorer You = sad friends, family and colleagues :(
does that make sense?
So what's the solution to a 'sane' human being ...recklessly rushing into a health and business crisis? Because trust me - the pack of cards will all come tumbling down.
It's time to rise and shine:
"Think better, do better, feel better."

S.H.I.N.E.
S -… Show more

Can the acronym "SHINE" help you wake up to a simple life equation?
Poor health = Struggling Business
Struggling Business = A Poorer You
A Poorer You = sad friends, family and colleagues :(
does that make sense?
So what's the solution to a 'sane' human being ...recklessly rushing into a health and business crisis? Because trust me - the pack of cards will all come tumbling down.
It's time to rise and shine:
"Think better, do better, feel better."

S.H.I.N.E.
S - Self-Care: Prioritize activities that rejuvenate you. Self-care is a non-negotiable. Stop burning the candle at both ends.
H - Healthy Boundaries: Set boundaries to protect and block-out your time and energy. Even 10 minutes of breathing space can make a difference. Learn to say 'no.' Recognize your limits.
I - Involve Support: Seek support when needed. Reach out to friends, specialist coaches, professional psychotherapists, online charities.
N - Nurture Stress Management: Develop healthy coping mechanisms to deal with low level business stress. We can't get away from it but... we can counteract it. Stop and take a breath (can you do 2 minutes?). Practice mindfulness. Do some deep breathing (use your body to calm the nervous system). Engage in creative activities.
E - Evaluate and Reflect: Regularly reflect on your goals and priorities. Ensure your actions align with what truly matters to you.
DON'T LOSE SIGHT OF ...YOU
(you're the only 'one' you've got)
In our relentless pursuit to become the best versions of ourselves, that is make money! ... We can find ourselves engulfed in a wildfire of ambition and activity.
However, this quest can become dangerous when we lose sight of what truly matters.... our life.
The signs of burnout are always there, lurking beneath the surface, waiting to be acknowledged. They manifest as: poor physical health, poor emotional control, poor mental thought patterns, and low spiritual energy.



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Do you know WHY - people don’t do what you want them to do? Because you have blind spots sabotaging your impact and influence. My upcoming webinar - 3 Steps to Make People Do What You Want - will be a bit of plain speaking on - what's been holding you back.

Emotional Intelligence is at the heart of this - yes, it's all about greater self-awareness. Because the best leaders know that:
Transforming your personal power, into personal influence, is the key to successful business… Show more

Do you know WHY - people don’t do what you want them to do? Because you have blind spots sabotaging your impact and influence. My upcoming webinar - 3 Steps to Make People Do What You Want - will be a bit of plain speaking on - what's been holding you back.

Emotional Intelligence is at the heart of this - yes, it's all about greater self-awareness. Because the best leaders know that:
Transforming your personal power, into personal influence, is the key to successful business relationships. ...suddenly, you’ll know how to:

motivate your team,
persuade investors,
Onboard or retain customers & clients

Clarity about how YOU operate ..changes everything!

The big question mark about - why ‘people don’t follow your lead & do what you want’ - will disappear. It closes future communication gaps ...And the solution is permanent and exponential.

Imagine team meetings where they buy into your vision instead of resisting.
Imagine investors jumping on board to fund your expansion.
Imagine a list of loyal customers who make repeat purchases …and refer you new business.

De-construct your blind spots & your biases, if you truly want more power, confidence and influence. Establish greater authority.
No more tolerating disrespect or being ignored!
Join the free webinar, Saturday 28th Oct (5pm BST UK, 12pm EST) and learn to ethically influence outcomes in your favour.

Use E.I. emotional intelligence, to understand how to increase your impact, and become unstoppable.
The choice is yours - stay stuck or take the lead.

Only those willing to confront their truths, and hold a mirror up to themselves, will experience lasting and permanent success.

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“A chain is only as strong as its weakest link.” Ever heard that old proverb before?

Well business growth and success are heavily influenced by our internal emotional state. And this is heavily influenced by subconscious mind programs.

It all comes down to the human design. We are wired for ‘survival.’
Invisible mental and emotional blocks can act as a 'rate limiting step' in the entrepreneurial mind. In chemistry & engineering this term describes a well known process… Show more

“A chain is only as strong as its weakest link.” Ever heard that old proverb before?

Well business growth and success are heavily influenced by our internal emotional state. And this is heavily influenced by subconscious mind programs.

It all comes down to the human design. We are wired for ‘survival.’
Invisible mental and emotional blocks can act as a 'rate limiting step' in the entrepreneurial mind. In chemistry & engineering this term describes a well known process ...where the whole system slows down due to the most weakest and sluggish component. The weakest link.

The rate determining component is in charge. And it's a perfect description of how internal emotional and mental challenges become a barrier to desired external business success.

Signs of Self-Sabotage
Your grand business vision requires numerous steps and processes to work seamlessly together. But how can you reduce internal resistance - and get the results you want?
It's essential to recognize when emotional and mental self-sabotage is occurring. Take a moment to reflect on whether you:
Feel anxious about how others perceive you and your business ideas.
Are plagued by self-doubt and anxiety about your intelligence, competence or performance.
Invent strange distractions and reasons to avoid working on key projects.
Find yourself stuck, unproductive or creatively blocked, losing focus on business goals.
Hesitate to take calculated risks or make decisions due to fear of failure.
Constantly comparing yourself to peers, friends, competitors, leading to feelings of inadequacy.
Are an overachiever, you put in long hours yet see little progress.
Procrastinate, and waste time implementing new business growth targets.
Struggle to maintain healthy life-work boundaries, which impact personal physical emotional & mental health. (and that of others)
Have lots of excuses and resist seeking help or delegating tasks ...even when overwhelmed.

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STRESS REDUCTION STRATEGY :
Hold two cups. In one hand is the stress jar, all the things that are filling up the jar and making life stressful.
In the other hand is the happiness jar. Let's call it my JOY JAR.
You have to try and find some balance between the two.
I'm being a little bit more mindful about it. That means I am paying attention a lot more. Because my health matters to me.

I've created a scale of one to 10. That's my happiness scale. And at the moment it's… Show more

STRESS REDUCTION STRATEGY :
Hold two cups. In one hand is the stress jar, all the things that are filling up the jar and making life stressful.
In the other hand is the happiness jar. Let's call it my JOY JAR.
You have to try and find some balance between the two.
I'm being a little bit more mindful about it. That means I am paying attention a lot more. Because my health matters to me.

I've created a scale of one to 10. That's my happiness scale. And at the moment it's on a five. It was lower than that before. So it's getting better. I'm going to be looking at that on a weekly basis. Just to see how that is shifting. I'm trying to move my happiness scale towards a 10.

ENJOYING BUSINESS AGAIN

But it doesn't mean that I'm ignoring my business. I'm actually enjoying my business. And I'm doing it with much more enthusiasm. Much more interest. ...Filling up my Joy Jar - And reducing my stress jar. Because business isn't easy.
Entrepreneurs are driven. Are motivated. And we give it 110%. That's all good for a short time. Attack projects In sprints...

Give yourself the grace and the space. To build your business empire in a more timely fashion. Without jeopardizing your health. Without jeopardizing your happiness.

So s-l-o-w down.
I'm slowing down. (I didn't say the word stop!). Just slowing and taking the Revs down.

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The Drip-Drip Effect of Negative Self-Talk:

Thoughts and Feelings Cycle: Our thoughts directly impact our feelings, which in turn, shape our behavior and actions. This cycle ultimately forms the foundation of our identity and our character. Which influences our outcomes and the results we get life. And this defines the legacy we create in the world.
Creativity Under Attack: Negative self-talk, stemming from real or imagined criticism, stunts our inner creativity— the source of… Show more

The Drip-Drip Effect of Negative Self-Talk:

Thoughts and Feelings Cycle: Our thoughts directly impact our feelings, which in turn, shape our behavior and actions. This cycle ultimately forms the foundation of our identity and our character. Which influences our outcomes and the results we get life. And this defines the legacy we create in the world.
Creativity Under Attack: Negative self-talk, stemming from real or imagined criticism, stunts our inner creativity— the source of innovative madcap ideas and unique solutions.

The Emotional Rollercoaster: We are emotional beings. Motivated, activated and driven by our emotional triggers and experiences. In today's multi-connected world, there's immense pressure to stay relevant, continually produce fresh ideas, and still be able to lead effectively. But can we really do that 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?

"We’re not used to being kind to ourselves. We’re not used to failing. And we can be perfectionists – our own worst enemy."

How We Handle Stress: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
Good Days and Clarity: When things are going well, we enjoy clarity, focus, and an optimistic outlook.
Bad Days and Freefall: Conversely, when things aren't great, we may find ourselves in an emotional and mental spiral. Even a mental and emotional paralysis.
Self-Critical Tendencies: We are unkind to ourselves (lack of self compassion), struggle with failure (what we make it mean), and can be perfectionists. We become our own worst judge, critic and punisher.
Negative Programming: Our behaviours, communication styles, and leadership styles are often undermined. Negative self-talk and negative belief statements, result in a self-defeating cycle of pain, conflict and frustration.


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I just read an interesting article about E.I.
The concept of 'emotional intelligence' feels like another buzz word doesn't it? But when you dig deeper it's a skill we all possess to varying degrees. And apparently it can be measured.
So I am going to talk to Robin Hills Leadership Management Trainer about the various ways of measuring this on a linkedin live (12th March 1pm).
However ...why do I end up feeling annoyed, and somewhat irritated by the concept of E.I. measurements?… Show more

I just read an interesting article about E.I.
The concept of 'emotional intelligence' feels like another buzz word doesn't it? But when you dig deeper it's a skill we all possess to varying degrees. And apparently it can be measured.
So I am going to talk to Robin Hills Leadership Management Trainer about the various ways of measuring this on a linkedin live (12th March 1pm).
However ...why do I end up feeling annoyed, and somewhat irritated by the concept of E.I. measurements?
Because I hate being measured! Weighed and found lacking. Lets call it small "T" trauma from the education system!* (see explanation at end)
It triggers my "not good enough" emotional and mental button. And it sneaks out in some really odd business and personal interactions. My husband also gets to see it all, the good the bad and the ugly.
I end up thinking "Am I missing something? why am I not quite hitting the grade?"
Lets celebrate the fact all humans have varying degrees of EI. It starts from the moment we're born and have to fend for ourselves without access to verbal skills.
Through the quality of interactions with our carers (parents), and then with others, we learn how to win friends and influence them. We learn our place and our power. Because ultimately we are social creatures and want to be liked and fit in. Who doesn't want great relationships, where they are seen heard and understood, right?
However some people develop more emotional intelligence, lets call it emotional 'maturity' than others.
Some people are better at working out the moving parts of 'how to have positive interactions.' They understand what genuine fear feels like and they know how to use their intuition. They are more persuasive, and have greater influence and therefore greater impact. It's an invaluable business skill ...because we can't build our business empires by ourselves.


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2 Essential Pros and Cons To Guide Your Decision: Emotional Intelligence

Coach PROS:
Specialized Services: EI Coaches offer targeted strategies and techniques, specializing in boosting your EI.
Focus on Professional Development: Coaches primarily concentrate on how EI can enhance your career and work relationships.
Flexible Schedule: Whether it's a one-off, in-person, or virtual session, coaching can be adapted to your busy timetable.

Emotional Intelligence Coach… Show more

2 Essential Pros and Cons To Guide Your Decision: Emotional Intelligence

Coach PROS:
Specialized Services: EI Coaches offer targeted strategies and techniques, specializing in boosting your EI.
Focus on Professional Development: Coaches primarily concentrate on how EI can enhance your career and work relationships.
Flexible Schedule: Whether it's a one-off, in-person, or virtual session, coaching can be adapted to your busy timetable.

Emotional Intelligence Coach CONS:
Surface Level: While EI coaches can address workplace issues, they may not delve into deeper psychological problems that can intersect with your professional life.
Quality Variance: With fewer endorsing bodies in the coaching industry, service quality can vary.
Insurance Coverage: Usually, coaching sessions aren't covered by health insurance.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT) PROS:
Comprehensive Approach: By addressing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, CBT offers a holistic emotional management solution.
Evidence-Based: CBT stands on solid ground, backed by extensive research and proven to change thought and behavior patterns.
Deeper Insights: CBT therapists can unravel and address deep-seated issues or traumas using established frameworks for stress, depression, and anxiety.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT) CONS:
Stigma: Despite changing attitudes, a stigma can still be associated with seeing a therapist.
Commitment Required: CBT typically requires a regular weekly commitment, which may not be feasible for all professionals.
Limited Business Focus: While CBT can enhance EI, it doesn’t necessarily zero in on its business applications.


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Here are 8 Strategies To Reset Your Emotional Blindspots"

Acknowledge your feelings
Revisit your purpose
Celebrate small wins
Build Or connect to a safe community
Take a deep breath. Pause, adjust and adapt
Be realistic & stay committed
Prioritize self-care
Seek professional advice

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What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Self-awareness. The ability to recognise and understand your own moods and emotions + how these affect others.
Self-regulation. The ability to think before reacting. Controlling how you express your impulses and moods and thinking and weighing things up before taking action.
Motivation. Understanding the difference between internal vs. intrinsic motivation. Can you be self-motivating despite whether someone pays you, pats you on the back or gives you an… Show more

What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Self-awareness. The ability to recognise and understand your own moods and emotions + how these affect others.
Self-regulation. The ability to think before reacting. Controlling how you express your impulses and moods and thinking and weighing things up before taking action.
Motivation. Understanding the difference between internal vs. intrinsic motivation. Can you be self-motivating despite whether someone pays you, pats you on the back or gives you an academy award?
Empathy. Ability to imagine how someone else is feeling (walk in their shoes). It’s a team builder, it helps you become a better leader.
Social skills. How you interact and connect to other people. So you can build networks and successful relationships

29 Soft Skills You Might Need...

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EVER WONDERED WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU LACK THIS?

Errrrmm! …I’m not one to gossip. But… was this a glaring sign of a LACK OF emotional intelligence?
https://www.linkedin.com/news/story/backlash-to-ceos-pity-city-quip-6255810/
Wouldn't this be a great topic for my Wednesday audio room? 1pm BST (8am EST).
It’s out there now. And it’s so true - you can’t put the cat back into the bag.

So what happened? Well, MillerKnoll’s female CEO Andi Owen was calmly talking to the team… Show more

EVER WONDERED WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU LACK THIS?

Errrrmm! …I’m not one to gossip. But… was this a glaring sign of a LACK OF emotional intelligence?
https://www.linkedin.com/news/story/backlash-to-ceos-pity-city-quip-6255810/
Wouldn't this be a great topic for my Wednesday audio room? 1pm BST (8am EST).
It’s out there now. And it’s so true - you can’t put the cat back into the bag.

So what happened? Well, MillerKnoll’s female CEO Andi Owen was calmly talking to the team one minute. In a controlled manner. About their bonuses (Well … lack of bonuses actually). Then in the next:
….she throws herself under the bus!?
"…Don't ask about 'what are we going to do if we don't get a bonus …Spend your time and your effort thinking about the $26 million we need and not thinking about what you're going to do if you don't get a bonus, all right?..."

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Emotional Intelligence comes with growth, life experiences and maturity. Which kind of makes sense doesn't it?

So why are we still blind-sided by our emotions, our negative thought patterns and unpredictable behaviour?

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Building Emotional Intelligence is like keeping a fine wine. It comes with time, experience and maturity. Which kind of makes sense doesn't it?
So why are we still blind-sided by our emotions, our negative thought patterns and unpredictable behaviour?
Well, I've been hosting a series of Q&A Audio Rooms dedicated to exploring this prickly subject in depth. Because there's nothing worse than thinking you've worked through an emotional 'trigger' ...for it to raise its ugly head during a… Show more

Building Emotional Intelligence is like keeping a fine wine. It comes with time, experience and maturity. Which kind of makes sense doesn't it?
So why are we still blind-sided by our emotions, our negative thought patterns and unpredictable behaviour?
Well, I've been hosting a series of Q&A Audio Rooms dedicated to exploring this prickly subject in depth. Because there's nothing worse than thinking you've worked through an emotional 'trigger' ...for it to raise its ugly head during a critical client conversation.

I've been using my 18 years of therapeutic experience and stress management practices to answer these questions and more.
What makes me different? I simplify complex concepts and strategies, uses stories and add a touch of humour!
BEWARE: With greater self awareness & power comes greater responsibility. Once you open Pandora's box ...there is no going back. But our new EQ super power brings more plusses than minuses. It improves communication, business performance and decision making. Not to mention greater confidence, grit and inner peace.
Keep tracking, identifying and labelling emotional tides, and your negative thought habits. Identify how you can build stronger, longer lasting relationships ...with clients, coworkers ..and even family & friends.
Less friction...
less conflict...
Now who wouldn't want that.
Remember to have chat about things. Find out what’s going wrong and how to put it right. Book a free 30-minute Emotional Intelligence Audit today. At best you’ll learn some solutions …and more about designing your EQ journey.

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9 PHRASES TO TEST YOUR EMOTIONAL SECURITY

Because the question posed was: How often have I used any of the following 9 phrases (….or a variation of )?

I’m not comfortable with that.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. How can I help?
This matters to me.
No.
Am I like that?
This is who I am, and I’m proud of it.
I will work on that.
I will try.
Let me think about that before I respond.

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9 PHRASES TO TEST YOUR EMOTIONAL SECURITY

Because the question posed was: How often have I used any of the following 9 phrases (….or a variation of )?

I’m not comfortable with that.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. How can I help?
This matters to me.
No.
Am I like that?
This is who I am, and I’m proud of it.
I will work on that.
I will try.
Let me think about that before I respond.

Well…. If you raised your hand to some of these, then (drum roll please)
…you are more emotionally secure than most people.

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Emotions are a fundamental part of human life. And understanding the different layers are crucial for personal development and high emotional intelligence.

But which emotions are the biggest liability for entrepreneurs?

Nailing this skillset is especially important in business …as entrepreneurs rely not only on intellectual abilities but heavily on gut instinct for business success. And we need to know whether our internal ‘emotions calibration’ is accurate and… Show more

Emotions are a fundamental part of human life. And understanding the different layers are crucial for personal development and high emotional intelligence.

But which emotions are the biggest liability for entrepreneurs?

Nailing this skillset is especially important in business …as entrepreneurs rely not only on intellectual abilities but heavily on gut instinct for business success. And we need to know whether our internal ‘emotions calibration’ is accurate and trustworthy.

American psychologist and researcher Paul Ekman did pioneering work in the 1950s.
Paul Ekman looked at emotions across cultures in relation to facial expressions and micro expressions.
And then Ekman introduced FACS (facial action coding system) in 1978 because he'd identified 7 primary emotional experiences, which he felt were universal:

Happiness: Usually indicated by a smile which involves multiple facial features working in tandem and open body posture.

Sadness: Often shown through a frown or downturned mouth, and in some cases, tears.

Fear: Generally seen through widened eyes, an open mouth, triggered by a perceived threat or danger.

Anger: Typically marked by narrowed eyes, a tensed body, and perhaps clenched fists.

Disgust: Recognized through a wrinkled nose, an eye squint, raised upper lip, and often averted gaze.

Surprise: A Startled response (positive or negative), widened eyes and an open mouth.

Comtempt : A raised lip, usually on one side of the face ( a mixture of both anger and disgust).


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PRACTICE THESE 11 STRATEGIES

To avoid falling victim to excessive envy and lust in your business, consider doing the following:
Firstly …promote and cultivate self-awareness and personal development.
Notice when the desire for personal gain might be clouding your judgement or compromise your values.
Stop obsessing over a competitor's success.
Stop trying to replicate other people’s strategies without considering how (if) they fit your own business model.
Avoid making… Show more

PRACTICE THESE 11 STRATEGIES

To avoid falling victim to excessive envy and lust in your business, consider doing the following:
Firstly …promote and cultivate self-awareness and personal development.
Notice when the desire for personal gain might be clouding your judgement or compromise your values.
Stop obsessing over a competitor's success.
Stop trying to replicate other people’s strategies without considering how (if) they fit your own business model.
Avoid making impulsive decisions based solely on desires (allow your brain to engage!)
consider the long-term implications and sustainability of your decisions.
Foster a culture of integrity, transparency and accountability.
Prioritise ethical behaviour and maintain a strong moral compass.
Encourage employees to speak up if they notice inappropriate or unethical behaviour. Make sure there are consequences for those who engage in it.
Ultimately ….The way forward is focusing on your own goals and success rather than constantly comparing yourself to others.
Focus on your own game and staying in your own lane. Improve it, rather than obsessing over your competitors.
Be aware when paranoia, stress and the imposter syndrome begin to cloud your judgement.

PS: The lines between envy and lust gets blurred. They overlaps with the deadly sin of ….greed. Learning to draw your own line in the sand, and hold yourself accountable is a great skill. Plus if you put your pride aside you’ll allow others to point out your ‘blind-spots- and hold you accountable too.

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"Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway?" The immortal words, from psychologist and best-selling self-help author Susan Jeffers.
Well should we?
I am in the 'yes' camp. Because in my twenties I decided to take positive action ...despite feeling scared.
In fact, getting into 'action' broke a spell and snapped me out of a deepening cycle of depression. (warning: if your depression elicits darker thoughts, please seek help and advice).
Published in 1987, Susan Jeffers captured hearts and… Show more

"Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway?" The immortal words, from psychologist and best-selling self-help author Susan Jeffers.
Well should we?
I am in the 'yes' camp. Because in my twenties I decided to take positive action ...despite feeling scared.
In fact, getting into 'action' broke a spell and snapped me out of a deepening cycle of depression. (warning: if your depression elicits darker thoughts, please seek help and advice).
Published in 1987, Susan Jeffers captured hearts and minds across the world Because she dared to confront THAT word? ...Feeeeear!

WHAT DOES YOUR FEAR SAY ABOUT YOU?

Fear is a powerful emotion, and serves as both a motivator and deterrent.
On one hand, fear can push us to confront challenges. And prepare us for potential threats.
It can instill a sense of urgency, propelling us towards our goals with gritted determination.
This stress "fight" response can lead to personal growth and achievement.

ON THE OTHER HAND....
Fear can be paralyzing! Causing sleepless nights, anxiety, and procrastination.
In essence avoidance of fear triggers the "flight" response.

It moves us away from opportunities, event and challenging tasks.
The dread of failure or judgment is a flight response. And it can hold us back from pursuing our dreams, claiming our greatness or taking calculated risks.

IN SUMMARY:

Reflect on how you respond to fear. Do you harness its energy or succumb to its weight?
The "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway" principle helped me along with millions to challenge my negative thinking and shift out of paralysis.

Susan Jeffer's words are still as powerful today as when they were written.
Which just goes to show the power of words. And how they unearth human "truths" that go way beyond ... cognitive logical reasoning.

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How can you go from Stress to Strength? If you are a business owner, entrepreneur or founder ...or simply thinking about becoming one. Dive in and find out more.

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Personal development and growth matters. It's important to track mental and emotional attitudes and practices. So here are two questions to ask yourself ... that is, if this sort of thing matters to you :

Q: Do I need to review my current psychological responses, attitudes and practices? (emotional intelligence)
Q: Do I need to review current emotional & mental frameworks that might be stopping me from getting stuff done (taking action)?

When we take the answers to these two… Show more

Personal development and growth matters. It's important to track mental and emotional attitudes and practices. So here are two questions to ask yourself ... that is, if this sort of thing matters to you :

Q: Do I need to review my current psychological responses, attitudes and practices? (emotional intelligence)
Q: Do I need to review current emotional & mental frameworks that might be stopping me from getting stuff done (taking action)?

When we take the answers to these two questions seriously, we begin to understand why our BIG vision isn't materialising ....the way we want it to (getting poor outcomes, poor results).

THE HOT & STEAMY BUSINESS JUNGLE
The problem is many business owners forget to ask themselves any questions. let alone these two questions.
They walk deeper and deeper into the hot & steamy business jungle. Getting more and more lost. Armed with optimism and a strong mug of coffee. Failing to examine their psychological responses, attitudes and practices, OR any negative emotional and mental frameworks that might be stopping the business from thriving.
When's the best time to admit we've lost our way? ...When one giant sequoia tree starts looking pretty much like the next! Or powerful emotions of frustration, anger, fear and brain fog regularly rent space inside our heads. Which we sadly take out on others.
The good news is he called me....
He knows he has to grow the business owner - to stop messing up his business growth and success. He has a great set of personal qualities and technical skills. He has a comfy pair of elasticated trousers. But when the waistband starts to pinch (ouch!) ...he calls me.

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With the old adage "..Age brings great wisdom and experience.." ringing in my ear, I thought this would be the front-runner.
But 'Self-Growth & Development Work' stole the show with a whopping 75% of the votes.
On closer examination, it's reassuring to know that age and experience are NOT the only way to boost emotional intelligence.
Studies suggest our cognitive intellectual development (IQ) is completed by the time we reach late teens to early twenties ...whilst EQ development… Show more

With the old adage "..Age brings great wisdom and experience.." ringing in my ear, I thought this would be the front-runner.
But 'Self-Growth & Development Work' stole the show with a whopping 75% of the votes.
On closer examination, it's reassuring to know that age and experience are NOT the only way to boost emotional intelligence.
Studies suggest our cognitive intellectual development (IQ) is completed by the time we reach late teens to early twenties ...whilst EQ development continues to grow as we mature.
This is useful information! As...
Many leaders, entrepreneurs and high level executives have recognised the long-term value of EQ. They're learning it and providing emotional intelligence training for their teams.
"...why do emotionally intelligent employees perform better? There are several reasons. They make positive decisions, have better relationships with colleagues and know how to manage stress. Additionally, when employees have emotionally intelligent managers, they're more engaged at work..." (Forbes 2023, Importance of Emotional Intelligence At Work)

WORKING ON SELF GROWTH
So how do you 'DO' the work? Well, it comes down to being asked great questions, taking daily EQ action-steps and working with someone who helps you feel supported. That mentor also challenges and holds you accountable for practicing the key EQ competencies.
Specialist mentors, trainers and therapists work with individuals and groups in this way. They challenge and increase self awareness (monitoring emotions, thoughts and behaviours). The specialists all achieve this in different ways, as the saying goes - 'many roads lead to Rome.' But a good starting point is an assessment.

Emotional intelligence assessments are useful, but they have their limitations. They only offer an 'insight' into an individuals potential to understand and manage emotions in personal and professional contexts.

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Emotional intelligence (EI) is also known as EQ. And it's crucial for effective leadership and professional success in business. But how do you measure up to these 5 main pillars?

1. Self-Awareness
Emotions are everything! Whether you love it or hate it, they control thoughts, and behaviours. But do you realise how much it affects your decision making process? You can either learn how to be consciously aware of them. Or allow emotions to be a subconscious automatic process that run… Show more

Emotional intelligence (EI) is also known as EQ. And it's crucial for effective leadership and professional success in business. But how do you measure up to these 5 main pillars?

1. Self-Awareness
Emotions are everything! Whether you love it or hate it, they control thoughts, and behaviours. But do you realise how much it affects your decision making process? You can either learn how to be consciously aware of them. Or allow emotions to be a subconscious automatic process that run circles round you and runs your life.

Are you able to recognize, label and fully utilise the kaleidoscope of your emotional experiences? This skill is the gateway to identifying your strengths, weaknesses, and values.

2. Self-Regulation
When an emotion bubbles up in your body and is communicated to your brain, can you manage, control and express it appropriately? Emotions are impulses. And this 90 second impulse creates impulsive feelings and behaviours. If you want to get really good at choosing the emotions to express …then acquiring this skill is essential.
When done properly you handle stress, you're adaptable and remain calm under pressure. When done badly you blow-up at people, mis-direct your anger & aggression, or withdraw into an anxious moody place.

3. Motivation
Being creative, self-directed and highly motivated are important character traits. People who have these are driven to achieve personal and business goals with no intervention from others. People who set this standard deliver quality work. They're also productive and welcome challenges.

Did you know that 95% of people think they are self-aware, but only 10 to 15% actually are?

4. Empathy
The trick is to understand yourself, way before you try to understand others. This opens the door to being vulnerable. And this vulnerability allows you to “imagine” what it feels like to be someone else. I also thing people "sense" it.




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The spotlight has been on mental health in business and the workplace this week, because 10th October was 'World Mental Health Day.' thanks Namrata Bhawnani, Editor at LinkedIn News

But I had to laugh because it reminded me of the TV adverts that rolled out every Christmas - "A puppy or kitten is for life not just for Christmas." Did you have any of these?
It would be great if mental health was made a priority 365 days of the year - not just when we are guilt-tripped into caring… Show more

The spotlight has been on mental health in business and the workplace this week, because 10th October was 'World Mental Health Day.' thanks Namrata Bhawnani, Editor at LinkedIn News

But I had to laugh because it reminded me of the TV adverts that rolled out every Christmas - "A puppy or kitten is for life not just for Christmas." Did you have any of these?
It would be great if mental health was made a priority 365 days of the year - not just when we are guilt-tripped into caring.
Because global trends for the past 12 months show ...62% of people felt stress disrupted their daily life. With nearly two in five workers saying they took time off due to stress (Ipsos World Mental Health Day survey).

TOXIC WORK CULTURE, ATTITUDES & PRACTICES"

Is it possible to get what we want in this area? And I'll be asking this question and sharing solutions in a free webinar 28th October ("3 Steps To Make People Do What You Want"). The economy, politics, technology and more are creating more stressed out, anxious individuals than ever before. But the source of the problem can’t be blamed solely on businesses.
However toxic work cultures, attitudes and practices do contribute to people ‘quietly quitting.’
And this definitely makes it a ‘business’ problem (affects profits - costs of rehiring, re-training etc).
The solution? Collaborate with mental health charities and professionals who know this field. Find a way to make ‘caring about mental health’ an every day thing. Not just a flash in the pan!


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I Journalled for Self-Awareness Because....

Writing down my thoughts, feelings and experiences increased self understanding
Looking back over my journal entries, helped me see patterns …between triggers situations, emotions, thoughts, and actions.
Externalizing my inner experiences, getting stuff out of my head and onto paper provided greater objectivity (more rationality)

3 Methods of Journaling:

I tried them all! …from following a structure, to free writing, to… Show more

I Journalled for Self-Awareness Because....

Writing down my thoughts, feelings and experiences increased self understanding
Looking back over my journal entries, helped me see patterns …between triggers situations, emotions, thoughts, and actions.
Externalizing my inner experiences, getting stuff out of my head and onto paper provided greater objectivity (more rationality)

3 Methods of Journaling:

I tried them all! …from following a structure, to free writing, to using little prompts to get my brain cells working.

Structured journaling
Note situations, thoughts, feelings and actions (draw columns)
Observe patterns and consequences of behavior


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How Do You Measure EQ?"

When in doubt, call in the experts! So here's Robin Hills a global trainer and speaker who is well versed in the language of EQ Assessments. If you don't know your EQ-i 2.0 from your Myers-Briggs or your DISC?? ...then dive in.

SUMMARY:
EI is different to IQ cognitive intelligence.

EI is framed as the synergy of positive thoughts, emotions and behaviours. Crucial for good decision-making and building authentic long-lasting… Show more

How Do You Measure EQ?"

When in doubt, call in the experts! So here's Robin Hills a global trainer and speaker who is well versed in the language of EQ Assessments. If you don't know your EQ-i 2.0 from your Myers-Briggs or your DISC?? ...then dive in.

SUMMARY:
EI is different to IQ cognitive intelligence.

EI is framed as the synergy of positive thoughts, emotions and behaviours. Crucial for good decision-making and building authentic long-lasting relationships.

EI plays a vital role in leadership. It's a critical skill ...not just a passing trend.

There are a variety of personality and EI assessments. For example, Myers-Briggs, DISC, EQ-i 2.0. Each assessment has its pluses and minuses.

Emotional intelligence is a skill. It has the potential for growth throughout life (emotional maturity)... versus the static nature of IQ cognitive abilities.

EI has practical applications in the workplace ...such as improving empathy, self-awareness, and interpersonal skills.

Continual self-improvement is the key. Its a journey, and your EQ score changes over time, and is affected by life stage and life events. It's not a once and done thing. It highlights gaps that you can be coached on.

Emotional intelligence has a positive impact on your personal life and your professional success. ...You take YOU wherever you go. What happens at home affects work - and vice versa.
Acknowledge the value of any personality psychometric test. But be cautious of misusing it, abusing OR traumatising humans. You never know people's personal history.

Temper assessments with more recognised holistic, development-focused approaches. Respect peoples fears and concerns about tests. Finally remember skills, innate talents and life experience & wisdom ...are equally as valuable.

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I am not perfect... and I know I'm not alone in this.

But what a ride I signed up for ...choosing the unpredictable path of jumping from an employee to being my own boss in 2012.
Because along the way I've stumbled.
And I've felt lonely and lost....
I've buried so many of the mis-takes in a little graveyard at the bottom of my garden.
I faced yet another technical stumble today! Getting my video short made, and getting it onto youtube, followed by getting both the video and… Show more

I am not perfect... and I know I'm not alone in this.

But what a ride I signed up for ...choosing the unpredictable path of jumping from an employee to being my own boss in 2012.
Because along the way I've stumbled.
And I've felt lonely and lost....
I've buried so many of the mis-takes in a little graveyard at the bottom of my garden.
I faced yet another technical stumble today! Getting my video short made, and getting it onto youtube, followed by getting both the video and some text onto linkedin.

LEARNING AND GROWING FEELS BAD
(...and then good)

My husband is right (but don't tell him!). He hates when I ask him to do a little odd-job in the house because - 5 hours later its turned into a marathon.
I guess that's an inevitable part of any process? It teaches us new skills, resilience and flexibility.
So when that critical voice inside my head becomes too loud. And I feel like I want to s-c-r-e-a-m. And I'm drowning in a sea of negativity and self-doubt, I remember ....the importance of treating myself with a bit of self-compassion and empathy.

KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON
As a Brit, there's a phrase that's almost encoded in our DNA. It served as a beacon of hope and resilience during the World War I and II:

"Keep calm and carry on!"
This mantra is not just about staying cool under pressure. It's about finding constructive ways to navigate through (business & personal) storms, ensuring we emerge stronger and more prepared on the other side.

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I read this statement a few months ago. And it's been triggering my emotions and actions - in a truly positive way!

How can 5 little words force my brain to think differently? To stay in the present? And do such valuable self reflection?
Sometimes it's best not to dissect things - because they lose their magic. So here are a couple of my reflective responses. Have a read and see where your mind wanders.

I Am So Ready For....
“The next step...”
“Reviewing my… Show more

I read this statement a few months ago. And it's been triggering my emotions and actions - in a truly positive way!

How can 5 little words force my brain to think differently? To stay in the present? And do such valuable self reflection?
Sometimes it's best not to dissect things - because they lose their magic. So here are a couple of my reflective responses. Have a read and see where your mind wanders.

I Am So Ready For....
“The next step...”
“Reviewing my purpose.”
“Big wins in the podcast world.”
"Protecting the planet."
"Travelling and connecting."
"Finding new passions and skills."
"Growing more spiritually."
"Leading with my intuition."
“Making new business friends.”
“A fresh start... every day.”
"Shaking things up."
"Forming closer ties with family."
"Caring about the real value of life."
“Celebrating more business wins”
"Overcoming sad times with grace."
"My childhood dreams coming true."

Did any of these resonate? I would love to know. And please add your thoughts ...to my thoughts in the comments. Because I am ...so ready!

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My inbox is regularly flooded with emails. I admit, it is my fault. Because…I subscribe to them willingly!
Attracted by the insights of various health, wealth, and mindset coaches I enjoy:

Observing how other entrepreneurs blend product and service delivery
Seeing the mix of information, personality - and edutainment.
Taking in strategies and guidance on sales and marketing.

There are days when my mental wealth and emotional capacity are strong, and the emails are a… Show more

My inbox is regularly flooded with emails. I admit, it is my fault. Because…I subscribe to them willingly!
Attracted by the insights of various health, wealth, and mindset coaches I enjoy:

Observing how other entrepreneurs blend product and service delivery
Seeing the mix of information, personality - and edutainment.
Taking in strategies and guidance on sales and marketing.

There are days when my mental wealth and emotional capacity are strong, and the emails are a source of incredible inspiration and fun. I feel connected to a powerful, universal supergrid of energy, confidence and actionability.
...But there are days when these emails are overwhelmingly toxic. In fact they should carry a government health warning

THE T.E.S.A. CYCLE OF DOOM:

What does it look like? The emails lead me down rabbit holes stuffed with articles and videos. They stir up a weird blend of emotions and sensations – fear, tension, anxiety, and unsettling nervous energy. So I track a couple of variables. I make a note of what's happening to my mental, emotional and physical states. And my answer to the much bigger question "why now?"
Track your Thoughts

T- My THOUGHTS: These entrepreneurs make business sound so easy. What am I doing wrong, they seem to be making millions? I’m not cut out for being an entrepreneur. All this marketing stuff is too hard, it's impossible.
E - My EMOTIONS: sadness, fear, anxiety, feeling inferior & incompetent.
S - My SENSATIONS: Tension in stomach and heart. Nervous energy in muscles. Paralysis of thought.
A - My ACTIONS & OUTCOMES: Don’t feel like working. Not thinking straight. Throw myself into non-business related tasks to feel better about myself. Procrastinate and waste time. Feel demotivated and incompetent.

This is the T.E.S.A. cycle of doom in full swing:
Troubling Thoughts
Emotional unrest
Stressful Sensations, and
Actions that lead to procrastination, incompetence and shame.


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According to the 1960's songwriter and activist, Bernice Johnson Reagon:
“...Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are...” (Bernice Johnson Reagon, Songwriter and Activist)

So why are there are days when I simply don't ...believe this??
When I just can't get started?
There’s a mind-to body-disconnect and I feel like a walking zombie. (Do you know what I mean?)

FOR EVERY PROBLEM ...THERE'S A SOLUTION
I am not… Show more

According to the 1960's songwriter and activist, Bernice Johnson Reagon:
“...Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are...” (Bernice Johnson Reagon, Songwriter and Activist)

So why are there are days when I simply don't ...believe this??
When I just can't get started?
There’s a mind-to body-disconnect and I feel like a walking zombie. (Do you know what I mean?)

FOR EVERY PROBLEM ...THERE'S A SOLUTION
I am not your average emotional intelligence coach & therapist. So... naturally I have a few strategies and tactics up my sleeve. I know how to re-connect myself back to my national electricity grid. To tap into my own emotional intelligence grid.
Here's an Emotional Intelligence Checklist to see which skills need refreshing : Emotional Intelligence checklist.
So how do I do it? By tapping into my 'JOY ENERGY.' And it works every time! My mind settles (get rid of racing negative thoughts). My body chills out, and I start easing into the day with greater optimism focus and control.

1. FIND YOURSELF A SONG
2. FIND YOURSELF A MOTIVATIONAL QUOTE


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Moving from employee to business owner requires a mindset and identity shift.

The big question is - can we use emotional intelligence to achieve this?

Time to face some harsh truths and explore the why, when, how and if... of making the transition. Plus explore the realities of becoming the 'best version' of ourselves.

Join my conversation with Arivee Vargas - a former lawyer who experienced the pain of career transition and ...re-invented herself as a specialist high… Show more

Moving from employee to business owner requires a mindset and identity shift.

The big question is - can we use emotional intelligence to achieve this?

Time to face some harsh truths and explore the why, when, how and if... of making the transition. Plus explore the realities of becoming the 'best version' of ourselves.

Join my conversation with Arivee Vargas - a former lawyer who experienced the pain of career transition and ...re-invented herself as a specialist high performance Coach for women leaders and lawyers.

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This is part of a mini-series exploring the 7 Deadly Sins aka “Thinking Habits.” As an aid to busy business owners and entrepreneur, we can self reflect and increase our empathy, self compassion and emotional intelligence. Building stronger inner psychology to build a stronger business.

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7 BEHAVIOURS DRIVING YOUR BUSINESS

AVOIDANCE: Avoiding tasks that feel overwhelming or uncomfortable, such as making sales calls or handling financial matters.

DISTRACTION: Constantly checking email or social media instead of focusing on important tasks.

PROCRASTINATION: Putting off tasks until the last minute or avoiding them altogether.

LACK OF MOTIVATION: Feeling unmotivated or uninspired to work on tasks, even if they're critical and important.

LACK OF… Show more

7 BEHAVIOURS DRIVING YOUR BUSINESS

AVOIDANCE: Avoiding tasks that feel overwhelming or uncomfortable, such as making sales calls or handling financial matters.

DISTRACTION: Constantly checking email or social media instead of focusing on important tasks.

PROCRASTINATION: Putting off tasks until the last minute or avoiding them altogether.

LACK OF MOTIVATION: Feeling unmotivated or uninspired to work on tasks, even if they're critical and important.

LACK OF FOCUS : Difficulty processing information and concentrating on tasks for long periods of time.

OVER-THINKING: Spending too much time analyzing and overthinking decisions - leading to not making a decision and inaction.

PERFECTONISM: This can be driven by a fear failure. Spending excessive amounts of time on tasks in an effort to make them perfect, even when it's not necessary. There’s a lot at stake and you don’t want to get it wrong. Others are watching you, and failing would be embarrassing and humiliating.


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.I keep moving the goal posts in my life. And it’s making me unhappy. ( Well you all know I am an over-achiever, right?)

In my on-going quest to be the ‘best’ version of myself. And comparing myself to yesterday’s version of myself …I keep changing my business milestones.

The reason why I’m telling you this today is - because you might be doing this. and setting yourself up for a tsunami of ugly emotions.

10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU ARE A PERFECTIONIST

1. Stalled Progress:… Show more

.I keep moving the goal posts in my life. And it’s making me unhappy. ( Well you all know I am an over-achiever, right?)

In my on-going quest to be the ‘best’ version of myself. And comparing myself to yesterday’s version of myself …I keep changing my business milestones.

The reason why I’m telling you this today is - because you might be doing this. and setting yourself up for a tsunami of ugly emotions.

10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU ARE A PERFECTIONIST

1. Stalled Progress: Business owners and entrepreneurs who are perfectionists can often procrastinate, delaying decisions or actions for fear of not achieving perfect results. This can significantly slow down business growth and progress.
2. Limited Innovation: In a quest for perfection, entrepreneurs may limit their risk-taking, which can stifle creativity and innovation – key aspects of successful business strategies.
3. Elevated Stress Levels: Constant striving for perfection can cause chronic stress for business owners, impacting their health and reducing their ability to effectively lead their business.
4. Strained Business Relationships: Expecting staff, partners, or suppliers to live up to the same high standards of perfection can create tension and conflict, damaging important business relationships.

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It’s time for a collective ‘R’ …. arrrrrrrgghhh.

That’s an:
‘R’ for Review (keep the things that sustained us)
‘R’ for Release (let go of things that broke us) and
‘R’ for Renew (find innovative ways to propel us)
Let’s face it. Business owners are used to stress. We accept mild burnout. We push through unexpected crisis and fatigue. G.R.I.T is our middle name. But even we need to write a Christmas Checklist to get us through this season.

What is your best success… Show more

It’s time for a collective ‘R’ …. arrrrrrrgghhh.

That’s an:
‘R’ for Review (keep the things that sustained us)
‘R’ for Release (let go of things that broke us) and
‘R’ for Renew (find innovative ways to propel us)
Let’s face it. Business owners are used to stress. We accept mild burnout. We push through unexpected crisis and fatigue. G.R.I.T is our middle name. But even we need to write a Christmas Checklist to get us through this season.

What is your best success strategy? …can you replace your Relentless Drive with Relentless Rest?

10 WAYS TO SLOW DOWN TO SPEED UP:

Give yourself permission to slow down once a day.
Say ‘no’ to non-essential calls /meetings / tasks.
Unplug digitally once a week (digital detachment).
Schedule relaxed breathing space every 60 minutes.
Spend 1 hour and get creative – write with colouring pens.
Meditate whilst – walking, having a bath/ shower, doing the washing-up.
Journal – if this is your preferred way of processing things.
Practice symbolic ‘letting go’ rituals. Write down problems and scrunch up the paper or burn it. Recite mantras and prayers.
Reconnect to your deeper purpose weekly. Have a screen saver message, or stick a post-it not to your laptop.
…Smile and have one belly-laugh daily.
So this season, before entering 2024, I am prescribing spiritual re-invigoration!
Because If you’re in a great place emotionally, mentally & spiritually, it’s going to rub off on all your business practices. Does that sound like an 'emotionally intelligent' way to operate?

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Let's tackle some of the most common concerns head-on:

1. "I don't have time." We all have busy schedules, but think of this workshop as a strategic time investment. Investing a few hours now to save countless hours down the road …in order to boost your ability to manage relationships, make better decisions, and lead effectively. Even if you can't attend the live session, when you secure your spot, you'll receive a complete recording of the workshop. So, you can absorb the insights and… Show more

Let's tackle some of the most common concerns head-on:

1. "I don't have time." We all have busy schedules, but think of this workshop as a strategic time investment. Investing a few hours now to save countless hours down the road …in order to boost your ability to manage relationships, make better decisions, and lead effectively. Even if you can't attend the live session, when you secure your spot, you'll receive a complete recording of the workshop. So, you can absorb the insights and strategies at your own pace, on your own time.

2. "Can't I just read a book about E.I.?" Sure. Books are great. But my workshop offers personalised feedback and real-world scenarios that a book simply can't provide. This isn't about theory; it's about practical application.

3. "It's too expensive." What's the cost of missed opportunities or stunted career growth? This workshop isn't an expense; it's an investment in your brighter future. And remember, I’m offering a money-back guarantee. If you don't find value in the workshop, I'll refund your money. You have nothing to lose.

4. "I already know a lot about E.I." Great! But there's always more to learn. This workshop dives deep, providing insights that can help even the most knowledgeable professional harness the full power of E.I.

5. "Will this really impact my career?" Absolutely. E.I. might sound like a trendy buzzword. But it’s a
critical aspect of leadership, collaboration, and success in the modern workplace. Increasing your E.I. can help you navigate workplace challenges and open doors to new opportunities.

Remember, the only thing standing between you and a significant career breakthrough could be a single decision. Don't let doubt hold you back. This is your time to invest in yourself and propel your career to new heights.

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Helping you harness the power of emotional intelligence, navigate conflict resolution, and explore the constellation of effective decision-making.

Harnessing Emotionally Intelligent Leadership
Effective leadership isn't about commanding your crew but rather about connecting with them. Emotionally Intelligent Leadership creates a healthy, productive, and sustainable work atmosphere that's harmonious. Even Buzz had to eventually understand his crew to succeed, right?

The EI… Show more

Helping you harness the power of emotional intelligence, navigate conflict resolution, and explore the constellation of effective decision-making.

Harnessing Emotionally Intelligent Leadership
Effective leadership isn't about commanding your crew but rather about connecting with them. Emotionally Intelligent Leadership creates a healthy, productive, and sustainable work atmosphere that's harmonious. Even Buzz had to eventually understand his crew to succeed, right?

The EI Mastery Assessment will serve as a hard reset of your navigation system. So you can chart a new course towards emotionally intelligent leadership.

The Impact of Emotional Intelligence on Decision-Making:

Decisions are like shooting stars! But they are influenced by the gravitational pull of our negative emotions. A heightened level of EI helps you feel it and pull away from it. Because you understand the patterns of your decision-making and how to improve them.

Emotional Intelligence and Conflict Resolution:

Conflicts are as inevitable as black holes happen in space. But with high Emotional Intelligence, we transform these potential death traps into portals for growth and learning. You wind up building stronger bonds and turning ‘black holes’ into opportunities.

In Summary:

If you've read this far, you're already primed for lift-off and for up-levelling. Because Emotional Intelligence is more than just a handy tool in your belt. It's the protective outer skin of your spacesuit.

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There are 10 ways to start retraining your mind body and soul to work as an agile team. So your GPS can start amplifying your true desires.

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7 NEGATIVE SABOTAGING THOUGHT HABITS

Here’s a reminder of the 7 “Negative Thought Habits” I also covered:

1. All or Nothing Thinking (black ‘n’ white thinking)
2. Over-Generalising (drawing conclusions based on 1 piece of evidence)
3. Mental Filtering (re-confirming what you already know)
4. Personalisation (blaming yourself & taking on responsibility for everything)
5. Emotional Reasoning (Using your feelings / sensations as a barometer)
6. Jumping to Conclusions &… Show more

7 NEGATIVE SABOTAGING THOUGHT HABITS

Here’s a reminder of the 7 “Negative Thought Habits” I also covered:

1. All or Nothing Thinking (black ‘n’ white thinking)
2. Over-Generalising (drawing conclusions based on 1 piece of evidence)
3. Mental Filtering (re-confirming what you already know)
4. Personalisation (blaming yourself & taking on responsibility for everything)
5. Emotional Reasoning (Using your feelings / sensations as a barometer)
6. Jumping to Conclusions & Mind Reading (predictions with no evidence)
7. Catastrophising (blowing things out of proportion)
8. Perfectionism (self-criticism, guilt and fear of failure)
I covered the big picture over-view in episode 1. The feedback and interest surprised me! But as I said I could only naturally skim the surface in 60 minutes.
7 DEADLY SINS aka Negative Though Habit - 7-part series
So the big-picture goal for the next 7 weeks is to roll-out a mini-series. Where the 7 Deadly Sins aka “Thinking Habits” are pulled apart even further so you can develop your empathy, self compassion and emotional intelligence. AND Build a stronger inner psychology that builds a stronger business.

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There are many events that can radically change your life. Getting the job of your dream. Having a baby. Or simply getting a new hair cut! But there is one thing that more could radically change your life. In fact change the way you perceive and react in your professional world… and that’s Emotional Intelligence (or EQ).
It's not just a buzzword. it's an influential factor that can shape your career trajectory.
Let's cut to the chase – this is why EQ matters:

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There are many events that can radically change your life. Getting the job of your dream. Having a baby. Or simply getting a new hair cut! But there is one thing that more could radically change your life. In fact change the way you perceive and react in your professional world… and that’s Emotional Intelligence (or EQ).
It's not just a buzzword. it's an influential factor that can shape your career trajectory.
Let's cut to the chase – this is why EQ matters:

GOES DEEPER THAN JUST KNOWING YOURSELF:
Emotional Intelligence is much more than understanding your own emotions. It's about recognizing others people’s emotions too. And using that knowledge to guide thinking and behaviour. Mastering EQ can be the difference between just surviving and truly thriving in your career.
REAL-WORLD IMPACT:

EQ isn't just an abstract concept. it has practical, real-world implications. High EQ can help you navigate complex professional situations, manage teams more effectively, and more cooperative relationships.

PERSONAL GROWTH:
EQ isn't a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. Everyone has unique emotional strengths and weaknesses. Understanding your specific emotional makeup helps you overcome recurring barriers that keep getting in the way. It helps you become a more effective manager and leader.

SUSTAINED IMPROVEMENT:
Developing EQ isn't a one-and-done thing. It's the gift that keeps on giving. It sets you up for a lifetime of self-directed growth and improvement. With the right foundation, resources and commitment, you continue to grow and develop your EQ.

SUMMARY:

Now, if you’re wondering where do I begin on this journey? Or how do I up-level what I already know? You might be interested in an intensive online Emotional Intelligence Workshop, Saturday 22nd July. I have one designed where I work alongside you to give you a deeper understanding of EQ and its application in the real world.

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THE 9 THINGS ALL HUMANS NEED

Given the challenges thrown-up by the Digital Age, plus the growth of all things AI (did Will Smith get in right in I-Robot?) ...we need a serious re-think about the workplaces of the future. if humans are to survive, grow and thrive then they need the following 9 things:

1.Security: A safe environment that allows them to exist without fear
(protect mental, emotional, physical health)

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THE 9 THINGS ALL HUMANS NEED

Given the challenges thrown-up by the Digital Age, plus the growth of all things AI (did Will Smith get in right in I-Robot?) ...we need a serious re-think about the workplaces of the future. if humans are to survive, grow and thrive then they need the following 9 things:

1.Security: A safe environment that allows them to exist without fear
(protect mental, emotional, physical health)

2. Autonomy and control: Having some ownership, fulfillment and direction over their lives.
(less micro-managing)

3. Status: Recognition of roles within social groupings.
(appreciation, validation and promotion)

4. Privacy: Time and space to reflect on experiences and consolidate learning & fire-up creativity.
(silence is golden ...space and grace to think)

5. Attention: Receiving attention from others, and giving it.
(Humans are social creatures, like pets)

6. Emotional connection to others: Friendship, love, intimacy.
(know other peoples love language*)

7. Community: A connection and a wider community to belong to.
(encourage volunteering)

8. Achievement: The sense of accomplishment & job satisfaction.
(Do what you love, love what you do)

9. Meaning and purpose: Goals to strive for that connect them to something deeper & bigger than incentives and money.
(universal presence?)


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Here's your step-by-step guide to practice Perfect Listening:

Mindfulness: Start each conversation with the conscious decision to be fully present. Put away distractions. clear your mind of the past and future. Focus solely on the person and the conversation in front of you. Your presence is a 'gift'.

Patience: Resist the urge to interrupt. Even when you have an exciting point to share. It's an itch thats difficult to NOT scratch. But your turn will come. Use this time and space… Show more

Here's your step-by-step guide to practice Perfect Listening:

Mindfulness: Start each conversation with the conscious decision to be fully present. Put away distractions. clear your mind of the past and future. Focus solely on the person and the conversation in front of you. Your presence is a 'gift'.

Patience: Resist the urge to interrupt. Even when you have an exciting point to share. It's an itch thats difficult to NOT scratch. But your turn will come. Use this time and space to be patient and listen.

Empathy: Try to understand not just the words, but the needs, emotions and perspectives behind them. Make an effort to 'feel' the way they feel.

Reflection: Instead of offering advice or your opinion, reflect back what you've heard, almost word for word. This helps confirm you are listening and understanding. It demonstrates 100% pure attention.
Can you practice this over the weekend? Because you'll notice the profound effectiveness it has on the quality of your conversations and relationships.

Take The Next Step: The Next Level:

Now, imagine equipping yourself with a whole arsenal of even more powerful EQ tools. That's exactly what awaits you at the Emotional Intelligence Mastery Workshop.

This is more than an event; it's your fast track to mastering the world of Emotional Intelligence. The clock is ticking, and there are only six days left to get on board. Spots are being claimed as you read this, so don't delay!

Remember, there's no replay button here. Once the opportunity is gone, it's gone. So, don't let it slip away while you contemplate "should I" or "shouldn't I." Click here now to secure your spot and set your sights on a successful future.

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36 Unexpected Benefits of working with Me:
Boosted self-esteem (confidence about your value & what you’re worth)
Increased assertiveness & delegate more (without being a dictator)
Wiser decision making (use better problem solving systems)
Life purpose clarity (business doesn’t have to crush your private life)
Cool-headedness (no more road rage outbursts? …OK, lets say fewer)
Deepened self-reflection (know how to get in touch with the ‘original’ you)
Genuine belly laughter… Show more

36 Unexpected Benefits of working with Me:
Boosted self-esteem (confidence about your value & what you’re worth)
Increased assertiveness & delegate more (without being a dictator)
Wiser decision making (use better problem solving systems)
Life purpose clarity (business doesn’t have to crush your private life)
Cool-headedness (no more road rage outbursts? …OK, lets say fewer)
Deepened self-reflection (know how to get in touch with the ‘original’ you)
Genuine belly laughter till your jaws ache (laughter is a natural medicine)
Calmer attitude (excitement is great, but sometime people need ‘space’)
Mindful eating (you care about the vehicle / body temple you travel inside)
Grace under pressure & stress (use the body-mind connection))
Appreciation for Cricket (Opps! sorry, but my partner loves it)
Public speaking skills (you’ll want to share your message everywhere)
Self-love (recognize your strengths, and appreciate your weaknesses)
Healthy boundary setting (work your agenda, non-negotiable spaces)
You say ‘No’ more often (it makes way for more space for the yes’s)
Improved listening skills (you enjoy the buzz of being ‘heard’ fully)
Laundry folding mastery (Oopps! How did that get on my list??)
New lifestyle habits (they naturally evolve with the new you)
Discover new hidden talents (so many activities things to try or revisit)
Forgive yourself more (less blame, shame and self- judgement)


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The two most important days in our lives are… the day we’re born and the day we find out why. And finding my ‘why’ has been a struggle. A roller coaster of trial and error, frustration and tears.
I find my purpose… and then I lose it.
I find my purpose again ..and then I lose it again.
(why am I so careless?)

So this sensible quote from 19th century author Mark Twain struck a deep chord today:
"...The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day… Show more

The two most important days in our lives are… the day we’re born and the day we find out why. And finding my ‘why’ has been a struggle. A roller coaster of trial and error, frustration and tears.
I find my purpose… and then I lose it.
I find my purpose again ..and then I lose it again.
(why am I so careless?)

So this sensible quote from 19th century author Mark Twain struck a deep chord today:
"...The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why..."

Identify What We Want
The thing is, it's not just about identifying what we want to do in our professional and personal lives. We need to go a few layers deeper and ask ourselves:
Why do we want what we want?
What will it make us feel when we get it?
How will getting it tell us more about who we are as a human being?
Yes… some deep self-reflection was needed today. And its definitely not something I can buy from Amazon!
But it’s achievable.
So long as I give myself permission to grab some quiet time. Some 'thinking' space. And do the following:
Repeat the three why, what, how questions in turn, over and over.
Then listen to the answers that bubble up to the surface of my conscious mind.
The brain is pretty simple. Ask it a question and it will rush off and fetch you an answer from the subconscious mind... like a dog chasing a stick.


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Have you ever found yourself behaving in a way that surprises you? Or in a way that feels repetitive and it's difficult to stop yourself?

Cognitive behavioural therapy is a practical based talking therapy.

It recognises that there is a connection between our thoughts, what we feel (emotions) and our behaviours.

It recognises that negative thinking has a powerful effect on our feelings, emotions, moods and bodily changes (physiology).

Even when we are not fully… Show more

Have you ever found yourself behaving in a way that surprises you? Or in a way that feels repetitive and it's difficult to stop yourself?

Cognitive behavioural therapy is a practical based talking therapy.

It recognises that there is a connection between our thoughts, what we feel (emotions) and our behaviours.

It recognises that negative thinking has a powerful effect on our feelings, emotions, moods and bodily changes (physiology).

Even when we are not fully conscious of having negative thoughts (perhaps just imagining 'what if') ...they trigger uncomfortable stress & anxiety bodily changes.

You might not want to belief this - but It's not always the situation that's the problem. It can often be our unique perspective on life.

The way we interpret things and what we make them mean, comes from the beliefs, assumptions and rules we make up as we go through life.

➤STRATEGY #1 - TRY PRACTICING THIS:

Negative thinking happens quickly, and when repeated creates harmful thinking patterns. Therapy helps you to:

1. Reduce these by noticing YOUR harmful thinking patterns, and underlying core beliefs faster.

2. Replace harmful thoughts with a more positive alternative - quickly gain a different perspective on an event.

3. Find new emotions and behaviors that create less stress overwhelm, anxiety, and distress - AND more clarity, calm focus, confidence and resilience.

Let Me Show You How To Get Back to Your 'Happy Place'. You Really Don't Have To Suffer In Silence Or Be On Your Own ...Without A Clear Plan

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I did a poll the other day and got 70 votes, asking 1 simple question: Which People Impress You The Most??

urprisingly 40% of entrepreneurs said "SELF AWARENESS"
Emotional intelligence is not just a "nice to have" skill anymore. And the good news is you can improve it.

Follow my emotional intelligence rooms & trainings. Gain insights and aha-moments. And feel free to DM me any of your questions ...always open to a conversation!

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I did a poll the other day and got 70 votes, asking 1 simple question: Which People Impress You The Most??

urprisingly 40% of entrepreneurs said "SELF AWARENESS"
Emotional intelligence is not just a "nice to have" skill anymore. And the good news is you can improve it.

Follow my emotional intelligence rooms & trainings. Gain insights and aha-moments. And feel free to DM me any of your questions ...always open to a conversation!

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This is a a topic very close to my heart …because I used to struggle with it. So, we covered it an audio room by sharing the real-life experiences of other business owners.

As a stress management coach and therapist, who strengthens inner psychology to build strong businesses, I wanted to find out - why so many business owners struggle to ask for help.

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WARNING: This a bold claim… but hear me out:

One of my favourite reasons for working with business owners and entrepreneurs is NOT about guiding their transformation. (yes, you heard me right).
So what is it all about the (I hear you muttering)?
Well, it’s grabbing a box of popcorn, claiming my front seat and …witnessing a business mindset transformation unfold in the very first session. Hearing a client say: “I was wrong about being right.”
The problem is we’re… Show more

WARNING: This a bold claim… but hear me out:

One of my favourite reasons for working with business owners and entrepreneurs is NOT about guiding their transformation. (yes, you heard me right).
So what is it all about the (I hear you muttering)?
Well, it’s grabbing a box of popcorn, claiming my front seat and …witnessing a business mindset transformation unfold in the very first session. Hearing a client say: “I was wrong about being right.”
The problem is we’re cynical.
Trust me, we’re riding a tsunami of a tide. Because we live in an economic and political space that makes us suspicious, cynical and guarded.
So I understand when a client walks in a devout sceptic. I understand they doubt their ability to change a lightbulb ...let alone change their minds about engrained mental and emotional business habits.

So the fun part for me (and it really is fun!,) is watching them enter the first session as a non-believer and leave a believer. Armed with fresh possibility they have the capacity to create shifts in their business. Hearing them say: “I was wrong about being right.”
Here’s the kicker: Most of us swear we’re not negative thinkers.
I say the same thing about myself, until my husband calls me out! And the other thing is, it’s really hard to find the light switch in a dark room.

...What I do is not quite magic. But it’s pretty close.
And that’s why I love this transformational way of working. And hearing clients say: “I was wrong about being right.”
Yes, I know.
You’re still feeling sceptical about things (and that’s OK).
But you’ll be left forever thinking how different life would be, if only you’d learned the skills to change your mind. So you could start seeing your business differently, and embracing it's hidden potential.
So are you ready to see what you’re missing out on about you and your hidden business potential?

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