another advantage is that Harold has more au-
tonomy than middle-class children in making im-
portant decisions in daily life. as a child, he controls
his leisure schedule. His basketball games are im-
promptu and allow him to develop important skills
and talents. He is resourceful. He appears less ex-
hausted than ten-year-old alexander. In addition, he
has important social competencies, including his
deftness in negotiating the “code of the street.”1 His
mother has stressed these skills in her upbringing, as
she impresses upon her children the importance of
“not paying no mind” to others, including drunks
and drug dealers who hang out in the neighborhoods
which Harold and alexis negotiate.
Still, in the world of schools, health care facilities,
and other institutional settings, these valuable skills
do not translate into the same advantages as the rea-
soning skills emphasized in the home of alexander
Williams and other middle-class children. Compared
to alexander Williams, Harold does not gain the de-
velopment of a large vocabulary, an increase of his
knowledge of science and politics, a set of tools to
customize situations outside the home to maximize
his advantage, and instruction in how to defend his
argument with evidence. His knowledge of words,
which might appear, for example, on future Sat
tests, is not continually stressed at home.
In these areas, the lack of advantage is not con-
nected to the intrinsic value of the Mcallister family
life or the use of directives at home. Indeed, one can
argue raising children who are polite and respectful
children and do not whine, needle, or badger their
parents is a highly laudable childrearing goal. Deep
and abiding ties with kinship groups are also, one
might further argue, important. Rather, it is the spe-
cific ways that institutions function that end up con-
veying advantages to middle-class children. In their
standards, these institutions also permit, and even
demand, active parent involvement. In this way as
well, middle-class children often gain an advantage.
Intervention in Institutions
Children do not live their lives inside of the home.
Instead, they are legally required to go to school,
they go to the doctor, and many are involved in
church and other adult-organized activities. In chil-
dren’s institutional lives, we found differences by so-
cial class in how mothers monitored children’s
institutional experiences. While in working-class and
poor families, children are granted autonomy to
make their own way in organizations, in the mid-
dle-class homes, most aspects of the children’s lives
are subject to their mother’s ongoing scrutiny.
For example, in an african american middle-class
home, where both parents are college graduates and
Ms. Marshall is a computer worker and her husband
a civil servant, their two daughters have a hectic
schedule of organized activities including gymnastics
for Stacey and basketball for Fern. When Ms. Mar-
shall becomes aware of a problem, she moves quickly,
drawing on her work and professional skills and ex-
periences. She displays tremendous assertiveness,
doggedness, and, in some cases, effectiveness in
pressing institutions to recognize her daughters’ in-
dividualized needs. Stacey’s mother’s proactive stance
reflects her belief that she has a duty to intervene in
situations where she perceives that her daughter’s
needs are not being met. This perceived responsibil-
ity applies across all areas of her children’s lives. She
is no more (or less) diligent with regard to Stacey
and Fern’s leisure activities than she is with regard to
their experiences in school or church or the doctor’s
office. This is clear in the way she handles Stacey’s
transition from her township gymnastics classes to
the private classes at an elite private gymnastic pro-
gram at Wright’s:
Ms. Marshall describes Stacey’s first session at the
club as rocky:
The girls were not warm. and these were lit-
tle . . . eight and nine year old kids. you
know, they weren’t welcoming her the first
night. It was kinda like eyeing each other, to
see, you know, “Can you do this? Can you do
that?”
More importantly, Ms. Marshall reported that the
instructor is brusque, critical, and not friendly to-
ward Stacey. Ms. Marshall cannot hear what was
being said, but she could see the interactions through
a window. a key problem is that because her previous
instructor had not used the professional jargon for
gymnastic moves, Stacey does not know these terms.
When the class ends and she walks out, she is visibly
upset. Her mother’s reaction is a common one among
middle-class parents: She does not remind her daugh-
ter that in life one has to adjust, that she will need to
work even harder, or that there is nothing to be done.
Instead, Ms. Marshall focuses on tina, the instructor,
as the source of the problem:
We sat in the car for a minute and I said,
“Look, Stac,” I said. She said, “I-I,” and she