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THE COMPONENT OF LOVE IN JOSIE SILVER’S ONE DAY IN
DECEMBER BASE ON TRIANGULAR LOVE THEORY BY ROBERT J.
STERNBERG
SCIENTIFIC PUBLICATION
Submitted as a Partial Fulfilment of the Requirement to Obtain Sarjana Sastra Degree of English Literature
Department
By
REGGINA AURALIYA YUSIGA
1600026068
FACULTY OF LITERATURE, CULTURE, AND COMMUNICATION
AHMAD DAHLAN UNIVERSITY YOGYAKARTA
2024
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THE COMPONENT OF LOVE IN JOSIE SILVER’S ONE DAY IN
DECEMBER BASE ON TRIANGULAR LOVE THEORY BY ROBERT J.
STERNBERG
Reggina Auraliya Yusifa
English Literature
Universitas Ahmad Dahlan
Yogyakarta
reggina1900026017@webmail.uad.ac.id
ABSTRACT
Keywords
Type of Love
Robert J. Sternberg
Triangular Theory of
Love
This research is entitled "The Component of Love in Josie Silver’s One Day In
December Base on Triangular Love Theory By Robert J. Sternberg”. This
research aims to analyze the component of love contained in the novel One Day
in December by Josie Silver based on the Triangular Love theory by Robert J.
Sternberg. In this research, researchers used qualitative descriptive methods to
analyze data. To collect data, researchers read novels and then use journals,
theses, etc. to complete data collection. The results of this research found three
components of love according to Sternberg, namely intimacy, passion, and
commitment. In the intimacy component, there are 7 out of 10 elements. In the
passion component, two data were found related to the passion component where
Laurie was only interested and passionate about Jack, and in the commitment
component in this novel, there was a short-term commitment component when
Laurie decided to start a new relationship with Oscar to forget Jack, and a long-
term commitment component when Laurie and Jack finally get back together.
The results of this thesis analysis can conclude that the type of love in the novel
One Day in December is consume love according to Sternberg.
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I. INTRODUCTION
Based on Maslow (in Goble, 1987), one of the
primary human wants is love; without love, people's
capacities will be impeded in their growth and
development. Love is characterized by a healthy and
caring relationship between two individuals, as well
as mutual trust. Love, according to Shaver, Morgan,
and Wu (in Baron & Byrne, 2005), is an emotional
reaction as well-known and essential as anger, sorrow,
joy, and fear. Love is a particular mindset directed at
one person toward another, impacting the way one
thinks, feels, and behaves (Zick Rubin, 1970). Love
is therefore an inner calling that brings happiness, joy,
and connection into partnerships. When individuals
adore someone or something, they are usually willing
to go to any length. Because many individuals believe
that if they can sacrifice for an individual they love, it
implies they truly love that individual. A lot of
authors include the topic of love in their works, such
as the love narrative in Shakespeare's masterpiece
Romeo and Juliet, which is about pure love that ends
tragically, demonstrating how love is so prevalent in
literature. One of the pioneers of the theory of love
was Sternberg. Sternberg (1988) created the triangle
theories of love, which say that love has three key
elements such as intimacy, passion, and commitment.
The researchers employed Josie Silver's novel
One Day In December, which is a love-themed
fiction novel. The novel One Day in December
published in 2018 and was successful topped the New
York Times bestseller list. As of 2020, Reese
Witherspoon, an actress and producer, was
considering optioning the film rights to the novel,
which was one of her selections for her Reese's Book
Club. One Day In December is a debut novel by Josie
Silver that has been translated into 25 languages.
Silver is also the author of The Two Loves of Lydia
Bird, which has been released in 2020. From the
description of the achievements of this novel, that’s
why the researcher decided to use this novel as study
material.
The novel One Day In December tells the
story of Laurie, a lady who falls in love at a first sight
with a man she meets at a bus stop on her way home.
Laurie told her best friend Sarah about the incident
and then decided to find the guy together. After
almost a year of searching, Laurie finally met the guy
she called the ‘bus boy’ when Sarah introduced her
boyfriend, Jack. Knowing the fact that Jack is the
man she's been looking for all this time turns out to
be her best friend's lover leads Laurie to hide the fact
she has found the 'bus boy' from Sarah, but Jack has
already known the fact but also kept it from Laurie and
Sarah. Because of her feelings of anxiety about
choosing friendship or love, Laurie decides to go on a
holiday to Thailand and meet a boy named Oscar and
they finally become closer and decide to get married.
Laurie's feelings for Jack don't disappear as easily as
Jack's silent still missing Laurie. Eventually, Laurie
divorced Oscar because of their selfishness toward each
other and nine years later reunited with Jack her past
love, and then resumed their love.
The theory of love provided by Robert Stenberg
(1985), known as the triangular love theory, will be
used by the author in this study. The triangular theory
of love is not the same as a love triangle. Three persons
may be involved in a polyamorous relationship or two
people may fight for the affection of a third person in a
love triangle but in triangular love Sternberg (1997)
states that there are three components of love: intimacy,
passion, and commitment. From the interpretation of
these three components, a concept called a type of love
will be produced. As defined by Sternberg (1997),
intimacy in loving relationships refers to feelings of
closeness, connectedness, and bondedness, passion in
loving relationships refers to the drives that lead to
romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and
related phenomena, and decision/commitment in loving
relationships means multiple things in the short and
long term. In the short term, it refers to making a choice
to love someone, and in the long term, it relates to the
commitment to keep that love. According to research
conducted by Sternberg and Grajek (2009:8) shows that
intimacy includes at least ten elements, that is, (a)
Desiring to promote the welfare of the loved one, (b)
Experiencing happiness with the loved one, (c) Having
high regard for the loved one, (d) Being able to count
on the loved one in times of need, (e) Mutual
understanding with the loved one, (f) Sharing one's self
and one's possessions with the loved one, (g) Receiving
emotional support from the loved one, (h) Giving
emotional support to the loved one, (i) Having intimate
communication with the loved one, and (j) Valuing the
loved one in one's life. Sternberg stated that a person
can have intimacy when they feel a number of these
feelings, whatever the exact number (2009:11). This
statement explains that if these ten elements are not
fulfilled then they are still considered components of
love intimacy even though the components of love
intimacy are not perfect. The second element in this
theory is passion, passion is a person's overwhelming
wanting to be together with the person they love.
Sternberg (1986) later explained that emotional desire
or arousal can provide energy and enthusiasm in a
relationship and strengthen feelings of intimacy
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between partners and each other. The third element is
commitment, Sternberg (2009) defines a commitment
as having two parts: long term and short term. (teori
Passion) The commitment to sustain a love
connection with a loved one is the long-term element,
whereas the decision to love another person is the
short-term aspect. From the explanation of this theory,
researchers are interested in using the Triangular
Love theory as a research theory because every
human being has a feeling of love for a partner, friend,
family or others so that humans are inseparable from
this feeling of love and researchers are interested in
this theory because in loving someone it turns out that
we have The elements of love are interrelated
(Intimacy, Passion, Commitment) so that we can
distinguish what type of love we and our partner
actually have.
The reason why researcher chose this novel to
be analyzed is because the story in this novel tells
about a pure love, woman ambition, and a strong
desire to always be with someone she love and does
everything to always be together. So the researcher
decided to analyze this novel using Sternberg's Love
Triangular theory to find out what types of love in the
novel One Day in December.
II. METHODOLOGY
The researcher use the Triangular Theory of
Love by Robert J. Sternberg to analyze Josie
Silver’s One Day in December type of love. The
analyzing data process will be started by finding the
data needed from the novel based on the
conversation and the data will be divided into some
parts.
The type of love from the main character can
be analyzed by knowing the three components of the
main character's relationship. Based on Sternberg
(1986), love has three parts:
1) Intimacy refers to sentiments in a
relationship that promote intimacy,
connection, and efficacy in a romantic
relationship
(Sternberg,
2009:
8).
According to the quotation, intimacy is
defined as a strong connection between
one person and another person, as well as
a high intensity of contact in many ways.
According to the findings of research done
by Sternberg da Grajek (2009:8), intimacy
consists of at least 10 elements, namely:
a. Desiring to promote the welfare of the
loved one
According to Sternberg (2009), a person
can have this aspect if the person they love is
satisfied or if their fantasies come true. A
person in love would undoubtedly seek the
well-being of the person he loves in a variety of
ways; in other words, a person in love will
sacrifice everything for the one they likes.
b. Experiencing happiness with the loved one
This aspect can be present if a person
and their partner engage in activities or
activities together that provide them enjoyment
or pleasure (Sternberg, 2009: 8-9). A person in
love is constantly pleased with the person he
loves because they do something together to
create nice memories.
c. Having high regard for the loved one
According to Sternberg (2009), this
aspect can exist if a person thinks about his
relationship and believes that his partner is the
best person in the world despite the fact that the
person is in trouble.
d. Being able to count on the loved one in
times of need
According to Sternberg (2009), a person
can have this feature if a loved one need
assistance and their partner will try their best to
assist them. A couple that loves each other will
need their spouse in any situation and will aid
each other when their partner requires assistance.
e. Mutual understanding with the loved one
According to Sternberg (2009), a
partnership can have this feature if one of the
partners knows anything without revealing
anything to their spouse. Each pair has a feeling
of understanding each other, such as
recognizing their spouse's strengths and
shortcomings and knowing how to respond to
their mate.
f. Sharing one's self and one's possessions
with the loved one
The most significant aspect of this factor
is that it allows couples to share (Stermberg,
2009: 10). A person is willing to offer their
partner time, himself, and everything their has.
When his lover is in need, a man will provide
anything he desires.
g. Receiving emotional support from the
loved one
Sternberg (2009) said that this element
can be felt when a partner remains there even
when the partner is wrong. A person will need
support and feel healed even in their worst
situation when their partner gives them full
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support.
h. Giving emotional support to the loved
one
A study by Sternberg (2009), even if
they are suffering troubles themselves, a
spouse would strive to help the person they
love. Someone will be there for their spouse
when they need it.
i. Having intimate communication with the
loved one
Based on Sternberg (2009), this factor
might be a loved one sharing a tale with their
partner even if the narrative makes them
humiliated. Couples will reveal their deepest
and most private sentiments with their loved
ones.
j. Valuing the loved one in one's life.
Based on Sternberg (2009), this factor
might be a loved one sharing a tale with his
partner even if the narrative makes him
humiliated. Couples will reveal their deepest
and most private sentiments with their loved
ones.
2) Passion is the second of Sternberg's 3
components of love. Passion is a person's
overwhelming desire to be together with
the person they love. The first aspect of
passion in Sternberg's theory of love is
romanticity and physical attraction.
According
to
Sternberg
(1986),
romanticity is the 'sentimental' aspect of
love and it consists of feelings of beauty,
admiration and passion in the relationship.
Sternberg (1986) later explained that
emotional desire or arousal can provide
energy and enthusiasm in a relationship
and strengthen feelings of intimacy
between partners and each other. Aspects
of the passion component of love are
usually unstable and often change
(Sternberg, 1986). People are usually not
able to control whether or not these
feelings are present in a relationship. Still,
they tend to be aware of whether or not
they are experiencing these types of
feelings toward someone (Sternberg,
1986). This component tends to cause a
high psychophysiological response in
people
(Sternberg,
1986).
This
psychophysiological response tends to be
more short-term, as our bodies cannot
sustain a heightened psychophysiological
state for extended periods of time.
3) Commitment is what makes someone want
to be tied to him and accompany him all the
way to the finish of the voyage.
Commitment usually refers to a conscious
decision to stay with a partner and make
long-term plans for future success and
happiness together. Commitments can
include promises to complete certain
activities, such as promises to remain
faithful, such as a marriage proposal, or
more informal promises of love and
exclusivity. Sternberg (2009) defines a
choice or commitment as having two parts:
long-term and short-term. The commitment
to sustain a love connection with a loved
one is the long-term element, whereas the
decision to love another person is the short-
term aspect.
III. RESULT AND DISCUSSION
In this chapter, the researcher would like
to analyze the type of love in One Day in
December based on the component of love in the
Triangular Theory of Love by Robert Sternberg.
A. Component of Love in the Novel One Day in
December
According to Sternberg (2012), perfect
love involves a form of love that can be viewed as
a triangle consisting of three main dimensions,
namely passion, intimacy, and commitment. Here
is the data that shows One Day in December
character's terms of relationship that has been
collected by the researcher to identify their
component of love.
1. Intimacy
Intimacy is defined as a strong
connection between one person and another
person, as well as a high intensity of contact in
many ways. According to Sternberg (2009: 8)
Intimacy refers to sentiments in a relationship
that promote intimacy, connection, and efficacy
in a romantic relationship.
According to the findings of research
done by Sternberg and Grajek (2009:8),
intimacy consists of at least 10 element, This
analysis explains the elements of intimacy in the
novel One Day in December.
a. Desire to promote the welfare of the loved
one
The first element in the intimacy
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component is the desire to promote the
welfare of the loved one. According to
Sternberg (2009), a person can have this
aspect if the person they love is satisfied or if
their fantasies come true. In this study,
researcher did not find data related to the
element of desire to promote the welfare of
the loved one. There is no data that shows in
this novel that the loved one feels satisfied
with what their partner does or says.
b. Experienced happiness with the loved
one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely experienced happiness with a loved
one. According to Robert J. Sternberg (2009),
a person can have this element if they and
their partner do activities together with a
sense of happiness.
Here is the data that shows element of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher to identify their experienced
happiness with the loved ones.
“My wife,” he whispers,
cupping
my face.
“My husband,” I say, then turn my
face and
kiss his palm. My heart
is full to bursting and I feel a pure joy
at the simple truth of it; he’s my
husband and I’m his wife. (Silver,
2018: 248)
In this data, it is known that Laurie felt
happiness and comfort when she accepted the
fact that she and Oscar had become husband
and wife, as seen from the quote "My heart is
full to bursting and I feel a pure joy at the
simple truth of it; he's my husband and I'm his
wife” that Laurie enjoyed the moment when
they officially became husband and wife on
their wedding day, creating beautiful pleasure.
Laurie and Oscar's togetherness at this
moment proves that Laurie and Oscar have an
element of intimacy, namely experiencing
happiness with their loved one. This can be
proven by the activities between the two of
them enjoying each other's.
c. High regard for the loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely high regard for the loved one.
According to Sternberg (2009), a person can
have this element if that person thinks about
their partner and considers their partner to be
the greatest person in the world even though
that person is experiencing difficulties.
Here is the data that shows element of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher to identify their high regard for the
loved one.
He shows a mild flash of
annoyance, and I wish I’d just
kept my mouth shut. “You’re so
wrong that I don’t know what to
say.” He softens and his hand
moves to cup the back of my
neck. “You’re always the most
spectacular woman to me,
Laurie. In any room or any bar
or on any beach.” (Silver, 2018:
145)
In this data, Jack proves the existence
of an intimacy component with elements of
high regard for the loved one, as seen from the
quote "You're always the most spectacular
woman to me, Laurie. In any room or any bar
or on any beach.” On this data, Jack praised
Laurie and said that Laurie was the only
woman who was more spectacular to him than
any other woman anywhere. This data proves
that Jack has an element of high regard for the
loved one because he thinks only Laurie is the
most attractive to him.
d. Being able to count on the loved one in
times of need
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely Being able to count on the loved one in
times of need. According to Sternberg (2009), a
person can have this element if the person they
love needs help and their partner will try their
best to help them. Someone who loves each
other will need their partner in any
circumstances and they will help each other
when their partner needs help. In this study, no
data was found that could prove the existence of
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the intimacy element in the form of being able
to count on the loved one's times of need.
e. Mutual understanding with the loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, an element of intimacy is found,
namely a mutual understanding with the loved
one. According to Stenberg (2009), a couple
can have this element if one of the partners
can find out something without saying a word
to the other and knowing it.
Here is the data that shows an element
of component intimacy in One Day in
December characters that have been collected
by the researcher to identify their mutual
understanding with the loved one.
“I open the bottle of wine
we’ve already chilled in the
fridge and pour out a couple of
decent glasses. One for me, one
for Sarah. . It’s an odd thought,
but I run with it, imagining that
quilt as I pull out a bottle of
beer for Jack and flick the lid
off, then close the fridge and
lean my back against it with
my wineglass in my hand. Our
quilt is handmade, carefully
constructed from gossamer-
thin
layers
of
hushed
conversations and snatched
looks, stitched together with
threads of wishes and dreams,
until it’s this magnificent,
wondrous, weightless thing
that keeps us warm and
protects us from harm as if it
were made of steel. Us? Who
am I kidding?” (Silver, 2018:
43-44)
From this data, it can be seen that
when Laurie, Sarah and Jack were watching
together at Laurie and SaraH's room, Laurie
did not pour wine into Jack's glass because
Laurie knew that Jack preferred beer
compared to wine. The form of the intimacy
component element in this data is a sense of
understanding as evidenced by Laurie's action
of not pouring wine into Jack's glass. This
data proves that Laurie and Jack have
elements of intimate mutual understanding with
the loved one.
f. Sharing of one's self and one's possessions
with the loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely the Sharing of one's self and one's
possessions with loved ones. According to
Stenberg (2009), the most important thing about
this element is that couples can share
themselves.
Here is the data that shows elements of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher to identify their sharing of one's self
and one's possessions with their loved one.
“Oh, Oscar! It’s perfect.” I
smile, tracing my finger over
the discreet gold logo. I sense
Sarah’s involvement, seeing as
I admired a very similar one on
her arm at the restaurant where
we celebrated my birthday.
“But you know you shouldn’t
have. It’s too much.”
“Making you happy makes me
happy,” he shrugs as if it’s a no-
brainer. “Look in the inside
pocket, there’s something else.”
(Silver, 2018: 153)
The quote "Making you happy makes
me happy," proves that by seeing Laurie's happy
reaction when Oscar gave her a gift, even not on
a special day, Oscar also felt the happiness that
Laurie felt. From this data it can be concluded
that Oscar has an element of sharing himself
and his possessions with his loved ones, which
can be proven by his romantic behavior towards
Laurie by giving a surprise gift.
g. Receiving of emotional support from the
loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely receiving emotional support from loved
ones. According to Sternberg (2009), this
element can be felt when a partner remains there
even when the partner is wrong.
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Here is the data that shows element of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher to identify their receipt of
emotional support from the loved one.
“Don’t say that, Laurie.
You’re down, but you’re not
out. Your parents will be
okay, and they’d want you to
follow your dreams. You’ll
get there, I know it.”
“Do you think so?”
“Come on. Look at you.
You’re clever and you’re
funny; you won’t be stuck
behind that hotel reception
forever. I’ve read some of your
freelance stuff, remember?
You’ll get your break soon,
I’m sure of it.” (Silver, 2018:
91)
From this data it is known that Laurie
received emotional support from Jack as
evidenced in the quote "Come on. Look at you.
You're clever and you're funny; you won't be
stuck behind that hotel reception forever. I've
read some of your freelance stuff, remember?
You'll get your break soon, I'm sure of it.”
Jack tries to provide support to Laurie so that
Laurie doesn't feel inferior about her
achievements. Laurie, who receives this
support, has a core component element in the
form of receiving emotional support from the
person she loves, namely Jack.
Regardless of the fact that I
don’t have a veil, Oscar’s
hands move to lift it; he’s
practiced every step of today
in his head, and he looks
momentarily wrong-footed
that there’s nothing there until
I smile and shake my head a
tiny bit. “No veil,” I mouth,
and he laughs softly.
“You’re beautiful,” he
whispers back. (Silver, 2018:
247)
From this data it is known that Laurie received
emotional support from Oscar. On their wedding
day, Laurie didn't wear the veil on her head and felt
bad for Oscar because Laurie thought that Oscar had
thought about every step for this day including
opening the veil that the bride used when they met at
the wedding altar, but Oscar responded which made
Laurie feel calm. This can be seen from the quote “No
veil,” I mouth, and he laughs softly. “You’re
beautiful,” he whispers back.” which aims to convince
Laurie that it doesn't matter if Laurie doesn't wear a
veil on their wedding day. Laurie receiving this
support gives her an element of receiving emotional
support from the person she loves.
h. Giving emotional support to the loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is found,
namely giving emotional support to the loved
one. According to Sternberg (2009), a partner
will try to support the person they love even
though they are also experiencing difficulties at
that time.
Here is the data that shows elements of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher to identify their giving of emotional
support to the loved one.
Regardless of the fact that I
don’t have a veil, Oscar’s hands
move to lift it; he’s practiced
every step of today in his head,
and he looks momentarily
wrong-footed that there’s
nothing there until I smile and
shake my head a tiny bit. “No
veil,” I mouth, and he laughs
softly. “You’re beautiful,” he
whispers back. (Silver, 2018:
247)
From this data, it is known that Oscar,
who saw that Laurie was confused because he
didn't wear a veil on their wedding day, tried to
provide support to Laurie by saying that Laurie
still looked charming even though he didn't
wear a veil so that Laurie wouldn't feel nervous
and anxious thinking about this. Therefore, it is
concluded that Oscar has an element of giving
emotional support to the person he loves,
namely Laurie.
“Hey, hey, hey.” I speak as
softly as I can. “I know, sweetie,
I know.” I wish with all of my
heart that I could hold her. “It’s
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okay, Laurie, it’s all right,
sweetheart.” I close my eyes,
because her grief is so raw it
hurts me to hear it. “I wish I
was where you are,” I whisper.
“I’m wrapping my arms tight
around you. Can you feel me,
Lu?” The sound of Laurie
crying is the worst thing in
the world. “I’m stroking your
hair, and I’m holding you,
and I’m telling you
everything’s going to be
okay,” I say, quiet words as
her sobs slow. “I’m telling
you that I’ve got you, and I’m
here.” (Silver, 2018: 281)
From this data, it can be seen that
Laurie, who at that time was sad on the day of
her father's funeral, received emotional
support from Jack as seen from the quote "It's
okay, Laurie, it's all right, sweetheart." Jack
tried to calm Laurie down because Jack knew
that Laurie was devastated by his father's
departure. From this data it can be concluded
that Jack has an element intimacy in the form
of giving emotional support to loved ones.
i. Intimate communication with the loved one
In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, elements of intimacy are found,
namely intimate communication with the
loved one. According to Sternberg (2009),
this element can be exemplified by a loved
one sharing a story with his partner even
though the story makes him embarrassed.
Here is the data that shows element of
component intimacy in One Day in December
characters that have been collected by the
researcher
to
identify
their
intimate
communication with the loved one.
I look at her, really look at her,
and I don’t want to tell her
any more lies today. She’s all
kinds of vulnerable, and
we’ve both had a drink.
“Maybe I should,” I
acknowledge. “But I don’t
want to. I like being with you
too much.” Christ. I shouldn’t
have said that. It’s on the
edges of inappropriate, and
it’s selfish.
“I like being with you too much
too,” she whispers, and a single,
desolate tear slides down her
cheek. (Silver, 2018: 94)
The conversation between Jack and
Laurie makes their communication intimate and
deep. Jack's honest statement to Laurie made
them open up to each other about their feelings.
Laurie really likes it when she is with Jack. The
communication that exists between Jack and
Laurie creates an element of communicating
intimately with the person she loves because of
honesty and sharing feelings between each other.
j. Valuing the loved one in one's life
According to Sternberg (2009), the
element of valuing the loved one in one's life
can be felt by someone realizing that their
partner is a person who is more valuable than a
treasure. In the novel One Day In December by
Josie Silver, the element of intimacy is not
found. In this study, researcher did not find data
related to this element.
Based on the explanation of the data
above, the researcher found 7 elements on the
component intimacy based on 10 points that
show intimacy itself, are, (b) experienced
happiness with the loved one, (c) high regard
for the loved one, (e) mutual understanding
with the loved one, (f) sharing of one's self and
one's possessions with the loved one, (g)
receiving of emotional support from the loved
one, (h) giving of emotional support to the
loved one, (i) intimate communication with the
loved one.
2. Passion
The second component of love
according to Sternberg is passion. The first
aspect of passion in Sternberg's theory of love is
romanticity and physical attraction. According
to Sternberg (1986), romanticity is the
'sentimental' aspect of love and it consists of
feelings of beauty, admiration, and passion in
the relationship. Component passion tends to
cause a high psychophysiological response in
people
(Sternberg,
1986).
This
psychophysiological response tends to be more
short-term, as our bodies cannot sustain a
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heightened psychophysiological state for
extended periods of time. People are usually
not able to control whether or not these
feelings are present in a relationship. Still,
they tend to be aware of whether or not they
are experiencing these types of feelings
toward someone (Sternberg, 1986).
In this research, data was found
relating to the passion component in the
novel One Day in December.
“I’ve been thinking,” Sarah
says, crashed out on the other
end of the sofa from me.
“There’s this new guy at work,
I think you might like him.”
“I only want bus boy,” I sigh,
costume-drama melodramatic.
(Silver, 2018: 10)
This data shows Laurie's feelings
when Sarah intended to introduce the man in
her office to Laurie because the man she had
been looking for had not yet been reunited,
but Laurie openly rejected Sarah and said that
she only wanted a "bus boy" who was love at
first sight that she can't forget. From this data,
it can be proven that Laurie has a Passion
component when she only thinks and wants
Jack without even looking at other people.
“I don’t know what to do
with myself, because all of
the things I want to do
wouldn’t be okay. True to my
word, I don’t orgasm on the
spot, but there is definitely
something going on with my
heart. How on earth has this
colossal fuck-up happened?
He can’t be Sarah’s. He’s
mine. He’s been mine for an
entire year” (Silver, 2018: 26)
In accordance with this data, it
explains Laurie's view when her best friend,
Sarah, introduces her boyfriend who turns
out to be the "bus boy" she has been looking
for. This makes Laurie have the desire to
want the "bus boy" to be only hers even
though she knows the fact that the boy is her
best friend's boyfriend. Laurie wants to be
intense with Jack or ‘bus boy” So this data is
proof that there is a passion component
created by Laurie's desire to have Jack.
3. Decision/Commitment
Sternberg (2009) defines a choice or
commitment as having two parts: long-term and
short-term. The commitment to sustain a love
connection with a loved one is the long-term
element, whereas the decision to love another
person is the short-term aspect. In this research,
data
was
found
related
to
the
decision/commitment component.
a. Short-term aspect
“God, I’ve missed you, Starfish.
Come inside and let me do
sinful things to you.”
We only get to see each other
every few weeks now I’m
living back at Mum and Dad’s;
it’s been ages since I was last
here. Oscar pulls me over the
threshold of his flat, taking my
weekend bag from me and
slinging it aside so he can haul
me into his arms. Yes, we’ve
become one of those loved-up
couples who call each other
ridiculous names like ickle-
pickle and dinky-toes. (Silver,
2018: 131)
From this data, it can be seen that
Laurie finally decided to have a relationship
with Oscar. This makes Laurie have a decision
component, namely a short-term aspect. It can
be seen from the quote "Yes, we've become
one of those loved-up couples who call each
other ridiculous names like tickle-pickle and
dinky-toes." Laurie and Oscar finally became
lovers and made Laurie forget Jack. This data
shows that there is a short-term commitment
component because Laurie previously loved
Jack but finally decided to start a new
relationship with Oscar.
b. Long term aspect
“I’d wait a lifetime for you,” I
say. “I love you, Jack O’Mara.”
“And I love you, Laurie James,”
he breathes. “Stay with me?”
“Always.”
He kisses me again and I melt,
because his kisses have been
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forbidden for so long. Finally I
pull back in his arms and look
up.
“Do you ever wonder what
might have happened if you’d
just got on the bus?”
He half shrugs, laughing as he
unwinds the tinsel from my
hair. “Boy sees girl. Girl sees
boy. Boy gets on the bus,
kisses girl’s face off, and they
live happily ever after.”
I laugh softly. “It’s a pretty
dull story when you put it like
that.”
“We got there in the end,” he
says, pressing a kiss against
my forehead. I hold him, and
he holds me, and for the first
time in years, there’s nothing
missing at all. (Silver, 2018:
378)
This data shows the long-term
decision/commitment component. It can be
seen from the quote above that Laurie and
Jack are finally in a relationship together
after being trapped in a complicated love
story for a long time. It can be seen from the
quote above that they are both looking
forward to the moment when they are
together and in a relationship, so they decide
to commit to a relationship with the person
they love.
In this research, the analysis shows
that there is data that shows the component
of intimacy, passion and commitment.
According to the Sternberg theory
(Sternberg, 1986) consummate type of love
formed from a combination of the three
component. So that in the novel One Day in
December produce a type of love in the form
of consummate love, because the three
components of love in this novel are fully
fulfilled.
IV. RESULT AND DISCUSSION
The research result show that in the novel One
Day in December there are three components of love
according to Sternberg, namely intimacy, passion and
commitment. In the intimacy component in the novel
One Day in December, researchers found seven of the
ten elements in intimacy component, namely (b)
experienced happiness with the loved one, (c) high
regard for the loved one, (e) mutual understanding with
the loved one, (f) sharing of one's self and one's
possessions with the loved one, (g) receiving of
emotional support from the loved one, (h) giving of
emotional support to the loved one, and (i) intimate
communication with the loved one. Regarding passion
commitment, researcher found two data related to the
passion component where the data showed that Laurie
only wanted Jack and was not interested in anyone
other than Jack. Regarding the commitment component,
researcher found that in the novel One Day in
December there is an intimacy component in the form
of short-term relationships and long-term relationships.
The short-term relationship in this novel is proven
when Laurie finally chooses to have a new relationship
with Oscar, a man she just met when she was trying to
forget Jack. And the long-term commitment component
is proven when Jack and Laurie meet again and repeat
their love story. From the description of the
components of love in the novel One Day in December,
the researcher concludes that the type of love in the
novel One Day in December is consummate love
because the story in this novel can fulfill the three
components of love base on the Triangular Love theory
by Robert J. Sternberg, namely, intimacy, passion and
commitment.
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