Vibrators 101: Everything you need to know about vibrators for beginners

Shopping for a vibrator for the first time can be an overwhelming experience. With all the different styles and functionalities to choose from, it’s easy to gloss over the details and go for the first thing that catches your eye.

But knowledge is power, especially when it comes to something as important as your sex life. From how vibrators really work to the best vibrators for beginners, this guide covers all the fundamentals so you can make the most informed decision before you try something new.

So, what is a vibrator?

A vibrator is a type of sex toy that’s used for external and/or internal stimulation during foreplay, partnered sex, and solo or mutual masturbation. They come in all kinds of shapes and sizes, and can be used for clitoral, G-spot, and/or anal massage, as well as along other erogenous zones like the nipples, perineum, or feet.

These toys help build arousal for users by increasing blood flow toward the vulva, penis, or other stimulated areas, and can be used to achieve multiple orgasms. Most popular models are either rechargeable or battery-operated, although some—like certain wand vibrators—have plug-in models.

Your guide to all the different types of vibrators

Vibrators are more than just wands and rabbits—there are multiple different types on the market today, and there are significant variations between models. Some are ideal for clitoral use, while others are better suited for dual-stimulation or anal play.

From suction vibrators to vibrating panties, and everything in between, here’s how it breaks down:

Wand massagers

Best for: Clitorial stimulation

What they are: Distinctive for their dome-shaped head and elongated handle, wand vibrators generally resemble microphones and pack a lot of power. They’re the most common type of vibrator because of the popularity of the Magic Wand. Although they’re very well-known and ideal for external use—including clitoral stimulation and all-over body massage—they may be too powerful at first for some beginners. Many models are rechargeable, but corded plug-in and battery-operated versions are also widespread.

How to use: These toys are built for intense clitoral stimulation and are usually very powerful (which is why they may not be best for beginners). To get started, just turn it on and position the head of the toy against the vulva. If the intensity starts to become overwhelming, consider changing positions or using the toy around other parts of the body, like the nipples.

Bullet vibrators

Best for: Clitoral stimulation, beginners

What they are: If you’re looking for a small but mighty sex toy, go with a bullet vibrator. Generally ergonomic and pocket-sized, these sex toys are designed to offer pinpointed stimulation along the clitoris, nipples, and/or perineum. They may not have as many vibration modes as other types of vibrators, but because of how simple they usually are to operate, bullet vibrators are a very beginner-friendly type of sex toy. They also come in rechargeable and battery-operated varieties.

How to use: These smaller toys might look no bigger than a tube of lipstick, which makes them generally lightweight and easy to maneuver. To start, touch the tip of the bullet vibrator against the clitoris, or you may want to massage around the clitoral hood. Using circular motions until you find the right groove for your body can be a good way to get started. If you’re extra-sensitive, try using it over your underwear or exploring other parts of the vulva with it; you can use bullet vibes for perineum play, too.

G-spot vibrators

Best for: G-spot stimulation

What they are: These vibrators are specifically designed to stimulate the G-spot, a notoriously tough-to-reach area that’s a few inches deep along the inner front wall of the vagina, toward the belly button. These toys are usually meant for penetrative play and are curved to better stimulate the area, although they can also be used to massage the clitoris and other parts of the body. Many popular models are comparable in size to bullet vibrators, but because G-spot play can be tricky for newbies just starting out, they’re generally not as beginner-friendly as bullets. Other models may resemble dildos, and most G-spot vibrators tend to be either rechargeable or battery-operated.

How to use: G-spot vibrators usually have a bulbous head and/or slightly curved shape so that they’re better able to reach the G-spot. Some solo play will help you get warmed up beforehand—making it easier to find the G-spot—but once you’re ready, insert the toy a couple inches, then press the head or curved tip against your vagina’s front wall and keep doing so, until your arousal levels peak.

Rabbit vibrators

Best for: G-spot and clitoral stimulation

What they are: Searching for a vibrator that simultaneously works for G-spot and clitoral stimulation? Rabbit vibrators are likely your best option. Generally larger than bullet vibes (but not as heavy as wand varieties), these dual-stimulation sex toys are unique because they feature an insertable shaft for internal use with a built-in, rabbit-ear-shaped attachment that’s meant for external play. Butterfly vibrators work in a similar way, except you’ll get wings instead of a pair of bunny ears.

How to use: These vibrators can be used internally and externally at the same time. To stimulate toward the G-spot, position the device internally toward your belly area and then grind or move against it until you reach climax. With the shorter arm of the toy, you can explore dual stimulation by massaging the clitoral area. You can also use it all around the vulva.

Suction vibrators

Best for: Clitoral stimulation

What they are: Although they’re classified as vibrators, these sex toys—which are also known as air-pulse stimulators and/or air-suction toys—don’t actually vibrate. Instead, they emit pulses of air, or sound waves, via a nozzle and are designed to engulf the clitoris and stimulate surrounding nerves for an overall deeper sensation. They’re usually rechargeable and not intended for internal use, nor do they work for pinpointed clitoral massage in the way a classic bullet does (although they can be good for nipple play). Popularized in the 2010s by brands like Womanizer and Satisfyer, these toys mimic the feel of oral sex and variations—like those TikTok-famous rose vibrators—are becoming increasingly popular online.

How to use: The mouths on these toys are intended to rest directly over the clitoris, creating a seal of sorts over the area. Using a compatible lubricant will especially help here, as it strengthens that seal and intensifies the suction-like sensations. Once you’ve positioned it, you can angle it around to figure out what works best for you. However, much like with bullets and wand vibrators, if you’re starting to feel over-stimulated, you may want to use these over other erogenous zones, like the nipples, toes, or earlobes.

Anal vibrators

What they are: These are toys that stimulate nerves in the anus. They’re typically shorter and thinner than other types of vibrators (like wands) but can come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. And technically, there’s more than one type: vibrating butt plugs, anal beads, and prostate massagers all count as anal vibrators. Just be sure to search for models that have a flared base, as anal toys without one could get lost in the rectum. Toys are typically battery-operated or fully rechargeable, depending on the model.

How to use: For any kind of backdoor play, be sure to use plenty of lubricant, as the anus isn’t self-lubricating. If you’re using a vibrating butt plug or prostate massager, you may want to warm up first by gently massaging around the rim of the anus before insertion (this will also make it easier to find the P-spot). Once you feel ready, guide the tapered end of the toy slowly inward, paying close attention to what does and doesn’t feel good. About two inches inside the rectum, you’ll find the P-spot, which is a soft, walnut-sized gland that can be great for penis-owners to focus on if they’re trying to achieve intense, full-body orgasms. You can also use an anal vibe to massage the perineum (the skin between the scrotum and anus).

Wearable vibrators

Best for: Clitoral stimulation, G-spot stimulation, couple play

What they are: This is an umbrella term used to describe any and all vibrators that can be worn during sex or solo play. Finger vibrators and vibrating panties are among the most recognizable types of wearable vibrators. Depending on the model, it may be designed for internal use, like a finger vibrator, or external use, like the Eva by Dame. Vibrating butt plugs and anal beads count as well, as they can be worn in a hands-free way throughout the day.

How to use: Since wearable vibrators come in so many different styles, you’ll want to refer to the owner's manual for your toy for the best instructions. Toys like the Dame Eva rest on your clitoris with the help of two flexible arms, but a toy like the Satisfyer Top Secret+ is meant to be inserted in your vagina and anus.

Finger vibrators

Best for: Clitoral stimulation, beginners

What they are: As a sub-category of both wearable and couples vibrators, finger vibrators tend to be much smaller and slimmer than wand and rabbit vibrators and are designed to be worn either attached to or directly over the fingers. Models can vary, but they tend to emit buzzy vibrations and can provide a lot of localized stimulation to the clitoris, nipples, perineum, G-spot, and/or anus. They’re usually lightweight and beginner-friendly and can be used during hand sex and oral sex for added fun.

How to use: Similar to bullet vibrators, finger vibrators can offer targeted clitoral stimulation. Slide the vibrator over your finger, then hold it against your clitoris while you find the vibration setting that best matches your comfort level.

Egg vibrators

Best for: G-spot stimulation

What they are: Similar in size to bullet vibrators, egg vibrators (also known as love eggs) are shaped just like you’d expect and typically have an attached loop or handle for easy retrieval. Although they’re meant to be inserted for G-spot stimulation, they can also be used externally on the clitoris, perineum, or around other erogenous zones. Beyond orgasms, love eggs can be especially good for pelvic floor strengthening exercises, too.

How to use: If you’re inserting the egg vibrator in your vagina, you’ll want to start by warming up—use the egg around your clitoris and vulva to get started, then insert the egg once you feel ready (you can use lube to help here, just remember to use a non silicone-based lube if your egg is coated in silicone). For anal use, you’ll definitely want to use lube to coat the egg before insertion. Be careful not to lose the egg’s tail, as these toys don’t come with flared bases.

Couples vibrators

Best for: Couple play

What they are: Much like with wearable vibrators, this is an umbrella term used to describe vibrating sex toys that will work better if you use them with a partner. There’s no one set shape, size, or functionality. Vibrating panties are a well-known option, but remote and app-controlled vibrators fall under this category too, as they’re more enjoyable to use when you surrender the remote (and/or app) to your partner and let them control the patterns, vibration intensity, and overall pace of play.

How to use: Couples vibrators come in a range of styles, from wearable vibrators to cock rings. Follow the instructions in your toy’s instruction manual for best use.

Butterfly vibrators

Best for: G-spot and clitoral stimulation

What they are: These vibrators are comparable to rabbit vibrators, as they have a similar build construction and are designed to work in more or less the same way. The insertable shaft is typically phallic-looking and can be used for G-spot stimulation, but the attachment jutting off the shaft resembles a butterfly, not a bunny. The fluttering wings and antennae can be good for clitoral stimulation, and most popular models are either rechargeable or battery-operated.

How to use: Much like rabbit vibrators, butterfly vibrators are meant to be inserted for G-spot stimulation while an external vibrator works the clitoris. Once your vagina is lubed up (either with non-silicone lube or through foreplay), insert the shaft of the vibrator. It may take some maneuvering to get the butterfly comfortably on your clitoris while the shaft is inside of you.

Vibrating panties

Best for: Clitoral stimulation, couple play

What they are: When it comes to vibrating panties, the name is a bit deceiving, as the panties themselves don’t vibrate. Rather, there’s a bullet vibrator tucked into them that can be controlled manually or via a remote or app. Available in multiple styles, like bikinis and thongs, the vibrators within those panties are designed to sit against the clitoris or other parts of the vulva. While they can be fun for solo use, they’re generally used by couples and among the most popular types of couples sex toys out there.

How to use: Wearable panty vibrators can be inserted in your panties. They can slide into your panties’ built in pocket, or they can be secured in place with a small magnetic clamp. Once placed, you can enjoy the vibrator with a remote control or app—or hand the reigns to your partner and let them take you for a ride.

Buzzy vs. rumbly vibrators: What’s the difference?

Another important aspect to consider when purchasing a vibrator is its frequency, or the number of times a toy’s motor oscillates and thus creates distinct vibration patterns and intensity levels. Generally, they’re broken into two major categories: buzzy and rumbly.

Buzzy vibrators tend to be lightweight and have small motors but offer a high frequency that can go up to as much as 10,000 hertz (Hz). They’re good for more direct, pinpointed stimulation, especially to small areas like the clitoris. However, buzzy vibrators also tend to be louder and some users might find the experience more surface level than deeply penetrating. If you’re using one at a high-intensity level for long periods of time, it may even cause some temporary desensitization.

On the other hand, rumbly vibrators run at a lower frequency, generally between 40 Hz to 180 Hz. These toys are usually larger but quieter than buzzy versions, and they work by stimulating sensitive nerves on more of a deep-tissue level. Although they run at a lower vibrator frequency, rumbly toys can produce powerful orgasms because those vibrations radiate further out inside the body and can massage more of the clitoris. Because the frequency isn’t as high, they’re less likely to cause temporary desensitization and/or numbness.

Bullet vibrators are generally thought to be buzzier, while G-spot vibrators tend to be more rumble, although this can vary depending on the brand and model.

How much does a vibrator cost?

The cost of a vibrator can vary widely depending on the brand and functionality, but you can find some for as little as $6 on sites like Amazon (but we strongly urge you to exercise caution when shopping on Amazon—stick to major brand names, like PlusOne, and avoid third-party vibrators, even when that price is tempting). At major retailers like Target, you can shop from brands like Hello Cake, PlusOne, and SKYN, with prices starting at $16.

When it comes to finding a cheap vibrator, there are plenty of models for under $30 that come from established makers like Blush Novelties, CalExotics, Doc Johnson, Lovehoney, and others. For a mid-range product that may offer more features and a better build quality compared to those budget-friendly picks, expect to spend anywhere from $35 to $75. You’ll find fan-favorites like the Satisfyer Pro 2 and Hitachi Magic Wand in this price range. Other major brands like Dame, Wild Flower, and Unbound have popular vibrators that cost about this much, too. For premium vibrators that go for anywhere from $80 to $150, look to makers like Lovense, Fun Factory, We-Vibe, Womanizer, and Zumio. With these toys, you’re more likely to get Bluetooth and app functionality, on top of a superior build quality and a greater range of vibration patterns. And if you want a luxury vibrator, brands like LELO and Le Wand offer models that can go for well over $200.

Choosing the right one can come down to a number of factors—like your budget—but generally speaking, the best vibrators for beginners will probably be in the under $50 range. As you grow more comfortable using a toy and figuring out what works best for your body, you can level your way up the price ladder.

Our best-rated vibrators for beginners

If you’ve never used a vibrator before and you’re just starting to explore your body in this kind of way, you might be tempted to go big by grabbing the first one you see on a shelf or online. But in reality, it’s a good idea to start small and keep things simple.

With that in mind, bullet vibrators can be a terrific entry point for vulva owners. They’re usually small, easy to travel with, and simple to operate; they’re also generally not as powerful as wand vibrators (which can actually be a good thing when you’re just starting out). Best of all, because they’re primarily meant for clitoral stimulation, you won’t have any pressure on you to master the mysteries of the G-spot just yet.

For beginners, the PlusOne vibrating bullet has everything you’ll need to get started. Priced at just $16, this small rechargeable toy is made from waterproof silicone and feels a lot more luxurious than it costs. With 10 different vibration settings to choose from, you’ll have options to play around with, plus the included finger-sleeve attachment will give you a taste of what life is like on the wearable vibrator side of things.

If you want to start out with an anal vibrator, the Lovehoney Butt Tingler is a very beginner-friendly option. Available for $17, this 3.5-inch silicone plug will help you ease into backdoor play without pushing your limits too much. It comes with a removable bullet vibrator (in case you want to use it for perineum play too) and has up to three speeds with seven different vibration patterns. And if you want to take it into the shower or bath with you, by all means go for it—this vibrating butt plug is fully waterproof and has a flared, ergonomic base for hassle-free removal.

Another great option for beginners is the WaterSlyde, which actually attaches to your water faucet and turns the running water into a mind-bending sexual experience (at least, according to our reviewer). This one barely even looks like a sex toy, and if you’re looking for an easy and fun way to start integrating toys into your sexual activities, the Waterslyde can be a great entry point.

The history of the vibrator

Vibrators have a long and storied past dating back to the 19th century. George Taylor, an American physician, is credited with creating the first steam-powered vibrator in 1869. Known as The Manipulator, the apparatus was fueled by coal and roughly as large as a table; it was also expensive and exclusively used at spas or by physicians.

By the early 1880s, Joseph Mortimer Granville, an English physician, had patented the first battery-operated model, which was portable—but also weighed 40 pounds. Others powered by hand crank, foot pedals, and even gas engines eventually followed.

In 1902, Hamilton Beach released the first-ever at-home vibrator not strictly for medical or spa use. These devices were actually among the first domestic appliances to ever be electrified, after toasters, tea kettles, and sewing machines. Throughout the 1900s and 1910s, popular magazines like Good Housekeeping, Modern Woman, and Woman’s Home Companion marketed vibrators as a cure-all for everything from headaches to wrinkles and arthritis, and even as a way to gain the “essence of perpetual youth.”

However, these ads began to dry up by the 1920s, as vibrators began appearing in pornography films of the era. Once they were implicitly depicted as sex toys, respectable magazines stopped featuring vibrator ads within their pages and the devices were essentially shuffled away from polite audiences (although by the 1950s, they were being billed as tools that helped promote weight loss).

It really wasn’t until the Sexual Revolution hit in the 1960s that vibrators came roaring back into the public eye. In 1968, Hitachi released the Magic Wand, a revolutionary wand vibrator known for its heft, tennis ball-sized head, and high-powered performance. That same year, sex educator Betty Dodson began leading female-only workshops in New York City that persisted throughout the 1970s and focused on helping vulva owners explore and better connect to their bodies via masturbation.

By using the Hitachi Magic Wand in both classes and demonstrations to instruct participants on how to pleasure themselves, Dodson is credited with not only empowering thousands of women to seek gratification on their own terms, but with popularizing the Magic Wand in the first place. Bestselling books, like 1972’s The Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort, lauded the benefits of vibrators, too, and by the end of the 1970s, women-run sex shops like Good Vibrations (which was founded in 1977) were helping spread a more sex-positive message around vibrators, their overall use, and the benefits of other kinds of sex toys.

What to know about vibrator safety

For the most part, vibrators are considered pretty safe. Research has shown that there can be a number of potential health benefits to using one, from helping relieve chronic vulvar pain to strengthening pelvic floor muscles. Orgasming on the regular may even work to alleviate stress, anxiety, and improve your overall sleep quality.

That being said, pay close attention to the materials your toy is made out of. Some may contain phthalates, which are hazardous chemicals used to soften plastic. Although they’re banned for use in children’s toys because they can get absorbed by the body, phthalates haven’t been banned in sex toys and have been linked to a whole host of medical problems, from cancer to birth defects. While silicone, glass, and metal-based sex toys are completely phthalate-free, some cheaper rubber toys may have traces, so always check for that phthalate-free label before you buy.

Not only that, but sex toys made from TPR and TPE can become porous over time and a prime breeding ground for harmful types of bacteria. Those made from nonporous, body-safe materials like silicone are not only going to stay durable, but also offer peace of mind while you use them.

Other factors—like using compatible lubricants and cleaning your toys regularly—can also support overall good sex toy hygiene and keep your vibrator safe for continued use. If you’re using your vibe with multiple partners, consider covering it with a condom, as sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like the human papillomavirus (HPV) can spread via sex toys.

How to clean a vibrator

Because vibrators come into direct contact with a lot of bodily fluids, cleaning them thoroughly—and regularly—is essential. Sex toys that haven’t been cleaned are more likely to introduce harmful forms of bacteria to the vulva and other parts of the body, which may lead to yeast infections, UTIs, and/or bacterial vaginosis.

When it comes to cleaning them, you can use liquid soap and warm water or grab a pre-made solution that’s specially designed for sex toys. After scrubbing and rinsing, just let them air dry in a cool place on a paper towel or other clean surface. If you want to go further and disinfect, boiling toys should do the trick—but don’t leave your toy submerged for too long (a few minutes should suffice).

Dishwashers can also be effective for disinfecting toys, but they’re not safe to use with all types of vibrators. Check your instruction manual to be sure before doing anything, as you do run the risk of destroying your vibrator if it isn’t dishwasher-safe. The same is true for using bleach; if the instructions aren’t clear, consider reaching out to the brand directly just to confirm.

Can you use a vibrator too much?

While vibrators are safe to use, sometimes it is possible to overdo it. Staying in the same position and using a toy for long periods of time at a high-intensity level may lead to some temporary desensitization. This is especially true if you’re using a wand vibrator or a very buzzy kind of bullet.

But there’s no evidence to suggest that temporary desensitization from overuse leads to permanent nerve damage or other chronic conditions. Nor does it mean you can’t orgasm ever again. If you are starting to feel any numbness or tingling in the area, take it as a sign to change positions, adjust the settings, or just take a break for a couple of hours.

Can you use a vibrator while pregnant?

Want to keep using your favorite vibrator during pregnancy? Good news—in most cases, you can, provided you consult with a trusted healthcare provider beforehand, as they may have specific recommendations around certain positions, lubricants, and/or sexual activities. Uterine muscles and the amniotic sac should keep the baby well protected, even if you’re doing internal play, and masturbation may help reduce stress and support a better night’s rest.

Regularly cleaning vibrators will also help ensure that unwanted bacteria isn’t introduced to the vulva area. But most importantly, listen to your body. If a certain toy or sensation doesn’t feel okay, or you’re experiencing bleeding and any unusual soreness, take heed and reach out to your doctor, as following your body’s lead here is crucial.