The best heated sex toys to use in the winter

Let’s be honest—in the middle of winter, it’s hard enough to strip down for a shower. Between winter blues and the general discomfort of freezing your extremities off (rock-hard nips are only fun to a point), your sex life might take a pounding in the winter, and not in a good way. 

It might be freezing out there, but the frigid cold doesn’t have to get between your sheets. We’ve collected 12 top-rated heated sex toys and accessories to keep things toasty warm until the frost thaws off your bedroom window.

1. A classic vibrator with a heated twist

If you’re a fan of classic rabbit vibrators, this might be the perfect upgrade. Reviewers like that the internal and external components have two separate motors (each with five vibration modes), so you can easily adjust to fit your personal preference. The internal portion of the vibrator heats up to 107.6 degrees, giving it a more lifelike feel than the average toy. 

2. A massage oil to heat up your foreplay

What better time than winter to enjoy a warming massage? Reviewers say this oil from renowned sex toy brand Lelo is light, fairly easy to clean up, and less greasy than some massage oils. You can give your partner a sensual massage without getting all sticky before the action has really begun. Just remember, this is a massage oil, not a lube—it’s strictly for external use only. 

3. A handy warmer for a masturbator sleeve

If you’re already got a Fleshlight or other masturbator sleeve, this warmer will take it to the next level. Reviewers say that it warms masturbator sleeves within five to 10 minutes, and that it’s much easier and more effective than running sleeves under warm water.

4. A steel wand that retains heat

Okay, this wand doesn’t automatically warm up, but we had to include it. It’s one of the best dildos you can buy for g-spot and prostate stimulation—and while the steel is cold out of the box, just warm it up under hot water and it’ll retain the heat for a significant time. It’s a versatile wand that you can put to multiple uses (you could even pop it in the freezer for a totally different sensation). 

5. A natural lube you can use with toys

It might be more accurate to call warming lubes “tingling lubes,” but that unique menthol sensation is exactly what many people love. Sliquid is a well-loved brand, and this aloe-based option is safe to use with a wide variety of toys. Be cautious with warming lubes—what might feel good to one partner could irritate or burn another. As with any new piece of sex tech, start slow, experiment, and listen to both your body and your partner. 

6. A thicker warming lube

If you find that Sliquid Organics’s aloe-based formulation dries out too quickly or isn’t thick enough for you, Dreambrands might be the right alternative. Like Sliquid, it doesn’t contain glycerin (a common lube ingredient that can irritate sensitive skin and cause issues internally). Its thick, body-safe formulation makes it one of our top recommended lubes right now.

7. A G-spot vibe that can switch from hot to cold

If you’re interested in playing with cool temperatures along with warm ones, this vibrator could be your new best friend. Fans say that it changes temperature remarkably quickly, so you’re not left waiting around for the toy to heat up. It’s a quiet, waterproof vibe, making it great for discrete play.

8. A heated vibrator designed for anal play

The Satisfyer brand is best known for its cult-favorite clit suckers, but that’s far from its only offering. This anal toy is soft and silky to the touch, with a rounded tip to make insertion easier and more enjoyable. Your mileage may vary with the heating feature—some reviewers say it adds some amazing sensation during play, while others say it’s only really noticeable when used externally. Even if that’s the case, fans say it’s fantastic to drag across your most sensitive bits.

9. A set of low temperature candles

Interested in experimenting with wax play? This kinky practice involves dripping melted wax onto a partner’s body. This set of low-temp candles are 100% paraffin, which is one of the safest options (hotter burning waxes, like beeswax, are not typically body-safe). If you’re getting started with wax play, just remember to do your research. Like any BDSM activity, you should only go into wax play with a thorough understanding of safety, aftercare, and communication.

10. A grinding toy with a flicking tongue

Unlike traditional vibrators, grinding toys can be used hands-free—all you’ve got to do is set it down and grind away. This option from CalExotics is unique for a couple of reasons, the most obvious being that it features a small flicking “tongue” in one of its two vibrating mounds. Most importantly, of course, it heats up, so you won’t be forced to grind on cold silicone. Like any grinding toy (or really, any toy in general), it will fit different bodies differently. It’s a good idea to check the dimensions before deciding if it might be the right choice for you.

11. A cock ring that’s great for couples

Heated vibrators are fairly common, but heated cock rings are harder to come by. This stretchy, vibrating ring is a hit with users, who say it’s comfortable, effective, and user-friendly. The most common complaint is sizing—it’s a bit of a bulky toy and the hole itself is on the larger side. That being said, reviewers say it’s versatile and usable, and that the warming and vibration are nice touches during penetrative sex.

12. A realistic thrusting dildo

If you’re a fan of both realistic dildos and thrusting vibrators, this toy brings together the best of both worlds. Fans say its thrusting is powerful enough to satisfy, and its handle makes it easy to hold and control. With multiple vibration and thrusting patterns, the dildo has the potential to satisfy a wide range of people who enjoy penetration. Add in the heater shaft, and you’ve got a toy that can offer a uniquely lifelike experience.