Você está em um papel de liderança e enfrentando um grande revés. Como você pode construir resiliência?

I think it's critical for every leader to practice the art of self-awareness. A few ways that I practice this are: 1. Seek Feedback: Actively solicit feedback from peers, mentors, team members, and other stakeholders. Be open to constructive criticism and use it as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement. 2. Hire outside help: I personally believe that investing in a therapist to be able to discuss your own feelings in a non judgemental environment is critical to developing self-awareness. 3. Invest in self-care: Working out regularly and ensuring you are taking care of yourself in the time of a setback is a great way to avoid burnout.

One of the most underrated part of Leadership - "Emotional State of Leaders". The first step to solve this is - acknowledgement of emotions such as stress, mental health or pressure of job. Having done that, It's utmost important for leaders to have close friends and family members with whome they can exchange or share personal thoughts. "Command is lonely" told my superior to me in Forces. That's a fact, however, sharing your part with others will relieve you in an extremely helpful manner.

Here are my top 3 picks for my clients who are striving to build resilience : 1. Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy" by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant - Explores resilience in the face of adversity, offering practical strategies! 2. "Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts." by Brené Brown - Brown explores the connection between vulnerability and resilience in leadership, emphasizing the importance of courage, empathy, and authenticity. 3. "Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance" by Angela Duckworth - Duckworth delves into the concept of grit, highlighting the role of perseverance and passion in achieving long-term goals and overcoming obstacles. Grit, is a personal fave of mine!

I would like to start by defining resilience as advancing despite adversity. To advance we will have to deal with the struggles our brain goes through. The brain struggles with the regulation of emotions when adversity strikes. Hence, for any action to occur, the first and the foremost step which needs to be done is to regulate our emotions. If this is not done in time, the negative emotions will lead to a downward spiral which is not going to be helpful at all. Acknowledging that we are experiencing negative emotions will help us quickly move out of denial and take next steps to manage the adversity. And we will then be able to advance despite the adversity, which is Resilience.

1. Acknowledge the setback: Accept the reality of the situation and its impact. 2. Seek support: Connect with your team, peers, mentors, or a coach for guidance and encouragement. 3. Maintain perspective: Remember that setbacks are temporary and part of the journey. 4. Focus on what you can control: Identify actionable steps to address the setback. 5. Stay adaptable: Be open to new approaches and solutions. 6. Practice self-care: Take care of your physical and mental well-being to stay strong. 7. Learn from the setback: Reflect on the experience to gain insights and grow from it. Resilience is about bouncing back stronger from challenges, and these strategies can help you navigate setbacks effectively.

Reframing or cognitive reappraisal is essential. There's always something to be learned from a setback, but at this stage, you want to try and build up your confidence and reduce your fear of the unknown. Don't rush into planning while emotions may still be raw. Once you're calmer, carefully analyse what led to the setback. Be honest about internal factors (decisions, skill gaps) and external circumstances.

Building resilience by finding inner strength. A suggested methodology is to carry out Self SWOT Analysis. Reassure yourself by writing down own Strength 💪, pen down what has failed you that may indicate your Weakness. Check alternate solutions which will give you Opportunities and what are you afraid of - Threats, how can you overcome them. By breaking a big problem into parts and solving alongwith your peers, im sure one can solve the problems. Small victories will give you enough confidence to take on bigger challanges. 'One Step at a Time' - you will gain your focus, motivation and resilience.

In distress people look to folx to gauge how they should respond. As a leader, this means you. What tone do you want to set? It is great to be positive, but the words this section are commonly used today's pseudo-therapeutic language (psycho-babble). This could possibly create 2 scenarios. 1 the words are unfamiliar and people can't associate them to work actions necessary to rebuild. 2 the words are too familiar so the association to mental health makes it uncomfortable. Leaders must be conscientious and ensure a safe working environment. If work starts encroaching on personal/private space, employees might be less likely to speak up or participate. Which is absolutely the opposite of what is needed when recovering from unwanted change.

Reframing the situation is the most important piece of the puzzle when dealing with a setback. From my personal experience as well as working with clients, success often stems from our ability to change the story. My project has been rejected -> My project did not demonstrate enough value. I was passed for a promotion -> I have more time to master my skills and gain more experience. The context is the same but the experience shifts if you reframe the setback. This opens up possibilities, invites action, and gives you back control.

Taking forward from Point Number 2...... Winston Churchill said, "I never worry about action, but only inaction". As a leader, take action, be it a small one. To start with, prepare a plan, break into smaller steps, involve your team members, delegate task to your team members and find solutions of each problem. A good way to see your performance is by setting SMART objectives i.e. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time bound. Small victories will lead to bigger ones. Once objecyives are achieved, celebrate each success, give appreciation to team members in front of others.

Taking action is key to building resilience. It's about creating a plan and moving forward with determination and flexibility. Breaking down goals into smaller, manageable steps, prioritizing tasks, and monitoring progress are all crucial. But don't forget to celebrate your achievements along the way! Celebrating small wins boosts morale, reinforces progress, and provides motivation to keep going. It's these little celebrations that help us stay resilient and focused on our journey forward.

One of the best ways to take action is to use what you learned and dive into educating yourself on the area of set backs. Luckily we live in a world where learning is at your fingertips. Between the LinkedIn learning platforms and many others out there, you can quickly and efficiently continue to build your knowledge and get better every day. Instead of falling into the victim cycle, take action and move forward!

Any set-back makes us feel powerless and negative, for some people that negative impact may last a few minutes, hours, whilst for others it may have a lasting impact. Lack of control can be easily counteracted by taking action. You got passed for a promotion? Gather feedback, set a plan of how to continue your learning and professional development, find a mentor or a coach. Stopping your efforts just because you are undervalued or unappreciated, will not benefit anyone, certainly not you. Taking action brings back the feeling of control, power, and changes your state to a more positive one.

Again, it's super important here to thoroughly analyse the setback. If you don't, you'll probably miss some critical blindspots and whether you're seeking the right feedback. I recall a big setback I once had with a client, and we spent too much time asking the wrong people for feedback. We would have been more effective if we'd done better root-cause analysis in advance and been more targeted in soliciting feedback. Another thing that's worked well for me in the past. Always follow up after the feedback and let them know what steps you've decided to take. This is gold and helps to strengthen trust.

Everything here is focused on building resilience after a setback. I'd argue that resilience is a continuous practice that makes setbacks less disruptive in the first place. There are a lot of things you can do to help build this: mental fitness via mindfulness, reflection, and positive visualisation; building a network of support (mentors, peers, and people outside of work); and generally learning and challenging yourself.

Understand that setbacks happen. They are a part of life and an organization's life cycle. No person or organization is perfect or infallible. Therefore, mistakes and setbacks will happen, and some milestones and goals won't be met. After grappling with the realities of the situation, assess what needs to occur to rebound from the setback. Put a plan in action and begin to take steps to execute the plan. More importantly, give yourself and your team members grace and empathy to understand the why of the setback and that it comes with the cost of doing business.

Imagine an EKG report showing your heartbeat. There are peaks and troughs that are natural throughout, but every now and then, there's a huge deviance. Those outliers are cause for concern. It's the same with our emotions as leaders. When we hit emotional peaks, we jump into situations quickly without thinking of the consequences. When we hit emotional troughs, we slog through the day, missing opportunities. There's a span in the middle that's considered our "zone of tolerance." Whenever we can, we should aim to build the skills that increase our zone of tolerance, so the peaks and troughs need to be more profound before they impact our decision-making and performance.