When I have a big assignment at work, I tend to get really overwhelmed. What are some strategies I can use to get past this wall of anxiety and just get down to business?
Sounds like a lot of men on the weekends when presented with the honey-do list — except then the anxiety is only about how to get out of doing it and watching the game instead, without getting an earful of grief! Looking at the project in its entirety can be overwhelming. Instead, do what experienced project managers do: Break it down into steps. Ask yourself, what is the very first thing that needs to be done to get the project started, and who needs to be involved? Usually big projects require a team. Bring the team together to own different pieces of the project, and set timelines for reaching short-term milestones. Getting started is the hardest part.
We just had a big event that I helped pull off, and my boss gave a shout-out to everyone but forgot me. I think he likes me and it was just an oversight, but should I say something or let it go?
The score from “Frozen” still rings in my ear as a new mantra for dealing with life: “Let it go-o-o, let it GO-O-O!!” Have you ever watched awards shows where winners forget to acknowledge their spouses, managers, kids, sometimes in favor of teachers from two decades ago? In the moment, sometimes you just have a mental block. If your boss otherwise shows signs of appreciating you — or makes amends by acknowledging the oversight — then it shows he cares and values you. I wouldn’t even think twice about it.
My boss made me present to our team and I bombed. Is my career ruined?
Depends on whether it was an epic crash-and-burn or just uncomfortable. Strong presentation skills are important if you want to grow your career and lead others. Take a course, either through work or on your own, and volunteer to get up on stage again. You can turn a career-limiting experience into a big win.