Comedian and “The View” host Whoopi Goldberg has a new book out, and this time it’s about relationships — tough lessons she’s learned through her own personal experiences and from observing friends and family. The 59-year-old, thrice-married-and-divorced mother isn’t “keen” on being in a relationship herself these days (“They require a lot of work that I actually don’t want to do,” she says in the book), and says her book, titled “If Someone Says ‘You Complete Me,’ Run!,” is for the lady who has a lot of “responsibilities and lots of things going on in her life and in her mind and in her heart.” Here is some of her best advice.
On deal-breakers: “There are probably a million things you don’t want. Be clear and specific. Don’t wait until the honeymoon to figure it out . . . That way, you won’t let chemistry or attraction or lust or wishful thinking get you into a relationship that you know isn’t right for you.”
On secrets: “I don’t recommend sharing everything at once with people. After some time, say three to four years, when you find that this is the person you’re going to stay with or you hope to stay with, then it’s a pretty good idea to tell him the thing that you are the most afraid of someone finding out.”
On casual sex: “There’s nothing wrong with a booty call, because sometimes you just want to hit it and run. Especially if it’s Jean-Paul Belmondo.”
On aging: “Women are afraid that once they get older, men will no longer find them attractive. That there’s some kind of expiration date on them. The truth of the matter is you never know who is going to find you attractive.”
On extramarital sex: “Sometimes in a relationship, people can’t always get what they need, and if you have reputable people you can turn to in order to get what you need, I say go for it. It is a whole lot better than being frustrated and angry at the person you love.”
On prenups: “A prenup is an act of love. It allows you to both be clear from the beginning, to discuss things and set things up properly . . . Also, from then on, you are staying with this person for the right reasons, not because you are afraid he is going to take all your money if it doesn’t work out.”