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I don't know 🤔 What happens to #coaches when the client replies with "I don't know" to important questions during a #coaching session? This was a topic we discussed today at our monthly event at C.O.A.C.H! Global Community for Coaching Mastery. Saying and hearing "I don't know" can mean so many things for both clients and coaches: 🔶 coaches, young and experienced, starting to doubt if they are leading the session in the right direction 🔶 clients hitting resistance 🔶 lack of awareness on the question 🔶 processing the answer in real time What can be done? We usually forget how powerful simple things are. A mere reframing to "What DO you know?" offers our clients a way to express things they are sure of, things they are not feeling, etc. Taking care of the client and holding space for them by asking "What do you need in order to know?". Maybe it's just time, maybe it's a bit of silence. Regardless, not knowing is the rich space to explore, to dig deeper, to be curious and to connect. As Alex Verlek, Mastercoach, CPCC. beautifully said today, we as coaches are the containers, while sessions with our clients are the contents to fill this containers. Thanks to all amazing coaches sharing their wisdom today and creating the space to learn. Dr. Matthias Hombauer Sophie Yiu Giovanni Passarin Rita Sanna Ulrike O'Connor Yasmina Chamimi Ingelotte Koster, CPCC, ACC Image source: refinery 29

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People come to me with all sorts of problems and goals. But the common desire is for joy, freedom, fulfilment. The work we do in coaching can feel difficult at times, but the foundation is not complicated: do more of what makes you happy. It doesn't have to be big stuff. Small steps, small activities, little joys here and there - they add up to making you feel more content within yourself, more compassionate to yourself, like yourself and your own company a bit more. So that your happiness depends less on others, and more on what you create from inside. This is a very helpful start, with lots of little ideas you can start on right away:

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3 reasons to get your PCC (Professional Certified Coach) with the ICF (International Coaching Federation) Here’s 3 good reasons to consider getting the PCC credential: 1. More marketable. You will become more marketable with a higher level credential. In fact, there are some coaching platforms and coaching organizations that require a PCC in order to work for them. You will better position yourself within the market with a PCC. 2. Professionally the PCC makes sense. Coaching is a big part of who you are and how you show up in the world so getting the Professional Certified Coach credential from the ICF makes sense for you and your coaching business. 3. Cost effective. When you get your PCC, you no longer have to do 10 mentorship sessions for each ICF renewal. Also, many students opt to go straight for the PCC as it means spending less money on multiple credential applications. Any other reasons you see to get your PCC? Share in the comments so we can learn with and from one another. And if you need to talk through your credentialing journey, happy to connect with you about it to support your next steps.

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Inner child work as part of the Executive Coaching process?! In terms of the work I do with my Founder & CEO clients — it’s an ESSENTIAL piece of the puzzle. Yesterday my dear friend, the brilliant Vienna Pharaon, LMFT and I led a discussion inspired by my coaching practice and her bestselling book, “The Origins of You.” The topic? “Burnout & the Worthiness Wound” We can all agree that burnout is at epidemic levels and ESPECIALLY prevalent in the startup founder community. We know that long hours and high stress are a PART of the puzzle but if those were the *only* causal factors — then even MORE folks would be burnt out… So what’s the missing piece that causes some of us to burnout while others roll with the punches? 🧒🏽👧🏼Conditioning we picked up in childhood. Not necessarily “trauma” — though it could be… But rather simply learning that in order to be loved and WORTHY we needed to achieve. 📚We needed to get straight A’s. ⚽️ We needed to score the winning goal. 👩‍🎓 We needed to attend the “right college.” And so on and so forth… This was an INCREDIBLY juicy convo so if you’re interested in the topic, I’ll share a link in the comments to receive the replay!! #burnout #burnoutprevention #burnoutrecovery #startupfounders #startuplife #innerchildhealing

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For those preparing for an ICF credential. When the stimulus for what you say to your coaching client is the list of ICF core competencies, you may find yourself thinking hard or even stuck for a response. This is not how best to make use of the ICF core competencies. The core competencies are behaviours which evidence coaching, and the depth of coaching. They are best used in a reflective practice. So how does one enter into a coaching conversation without trying to demonstrate the core competencies? 1. Beforehand, set your intention on the phases of this professional conversation. A: Foundation B. Co-Creating the Relationship C. Communicating Effectively D. Cultivating Learning and Growth 2. Engage with your client primarily (i.e. be in professional, focused relationship with them), supported by the touch points you have learned to deepen the conversation sufficiently in each stage. 3. After the session, reflect on how your intentions were manifest in what you said, using the core competencies as a reference. 4. Explore - what worked well - where you went off track - other options - what you are learning about yourself, the core competencies, coaching as a modality Using a relational approach to engage with your client makes coaching real and meaningful, as opposed to a performative act of demonstrating competencies. It also means you will have more opportunity to authentically bring the ICF core competencies into your work, instead of thinking about them. When you are stuck in thinking about what to say, you have lost connection with your client. Find out how you can use the ICF core competencies to support your coaching, instead of being restricted or driven by them. Join us for- 'ICF Core Competencies- A Relational Exploration | Foundation Level’, 20 June 11h00 SAST | 09h00 UTC Visit page 'Word of Mouth Coach' events section for more details. Direct registration link https://lnkd.in/d3XeUA3M - Registration required in advance. Click on the event link to register through Zoom. - Cost: the webinar is priced on a self-select fee model. Minimum recommended price USD $35. June is the last iteration of this webinar at this price. From July the minimum price increases to $70 for first-time attendees. - Participants will gain most value if they have completed ICF accredited coach training. - ICF CCEs: 1.5 hours of supervision Core Competency CCEs DM me if you would like to learn more before registering or if you are unable to make the date and still want to take advantage of the reduced pricing for this last iteration. #ICF #ICFCCE #CCE #corecompetencies #ACC #PCC #mentorcoaching #coachsupervision #reflectivepractice

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🌟 Mentor Coaching for an ICF Credential 🌟 Are you ready to take your coaching journey to the next level? I'm pleased to announce my upcoming Mentor Coaching Program, commencing June 14th is almost full, only a couple of spaces remain! 🚀 Whether you're aiming to fulfill the requirements for an ICF credential application or simply looking to deepen your coaching competence, this program is designed with your growth in mind. 🌐 Program Highlights:  📚 In-depth coaching competence development, not only around the core competencies 🔍 ICF credential application support, especially for USyd Coaching Masters students or graduates 🤝 One-on-one mentoring and group sessions, as per the ICF requirement 📅 June 14th start date 🔢 Maximum of 8 participants Join us for this developmental coach mentoring experience and unlock your true potential. Click this link to see more about the program: https://lnkd.in/g7Vgbma9 See what some past mentees have said: https://lnkd.in/gvsz4T3 “Tracy’s mentoring was informed, sensitive, practical and effective. In short excellent in all regards. She focused me on my identified development needs and balanced gentle prompts and tougher reflection for my own deep learning with education and techniques to build my skills. Some of the most valuable things I learned through Tracy's mentoring were to pace myself and watch my "advice monster". More importantly I learned how to focus the coachee on their own process and in particular reflect on their own learning. I'd be happy to recommend Tracy as a mentor for anyone in the coaching field especially if they are pursuing an ICF credential. She has a deep knowledge of the subject matter formed from wide reading, a constant hunger for new knowledge and ideas, and the wisdom that is gained from many years of practice. She has a warm, empathetic, light style borne from a genuine care for the people she works with. I have no hesitation in recommending Tracy to you and I'm sure you will flourish professionally and personally as a result of working with her. I have!” Tim Sprague M.Sc (Coach Psych) ICF PCC Robert Gaylard Meaveen Sullivan MAppSc, PCC Sheena Polese MBA, MSc (Coaching Psychology), PCC ICF Nicole Florio

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𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬? 🤔 In my recent coaching session , I learned something important: it's crucial to be flexible with our emotions. 𝐸𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 and 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠 𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑎𝑙. 𝑇𝑟𝑦𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑖𝑔𝑛𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑜𝑟 𝑠𝑢𝑝𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑠𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑚 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝑐𝑎𝑢𝑠𝑒 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑚 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑛 𝑔𝑜𝑜𝑑. But what really causes us trouble?😱 Is it the emotions themselves, or how we act because of them? Emotions are part of being human. The key is to understand what triggers these emotions and talk to ourselves in a positive way. By simply naming our emotions without judgment😌, we can handle them better. 𝐎𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐬, 𝐡𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫, 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥. 𝐇𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐨𝐥𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩 𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: ✨𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐀𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬: Be present and notice your emotions without judging them. ✨𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐍𝐞𝐠𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬: Challenge and change negative thoughts that trigger bad feelings. ✨𝐁𝐞 𝐊𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟: Treat yourself with the same kindness you would give a friend. ✨𝐀𝐝𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐁𝐞𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐨𝐫𝐬: Change behaviors that don’t help you achieve your goals. ✨𝐏𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐒𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐓𝐚𝐥𝐤: Use positive and empowering words when talking to yourself. Remember, while emotions are natural, our power lies in how we respond. By embracing emotional flexibility and managing our behaviors, we can handle life better. 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥. 𝐁𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮; 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬. #mindfulliving #emotionalbalamce #behavior #selfawareness

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It's International Coaching Week! Ever wondered what coaching is all about? Join us to uncover the power of coaching. Please visit https://lnkd.in/gc5bfifv to learn more about coaching. #ICW2024 #ThinkLikeACoach #CoachingWeek #personaldevelopment #whatiscoaching

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When I discuss #EQ with my coachees, they keep mentioning how empathic they are and how they try to understand the #emotions of their colleagues. However, if you are not aware of your own emotional state how can you understand the other person? It's great to hear that many, if not all, emphasize empathy and the importance of understanding the emotions of their colleagues, a crucial aspect of emotional intelligence is self-awareness. Being in tune with our own emotions is foundational. Without a clear understanding of our own emotional state, it becomes challenging to accurately perceive and respond to the emotions of others. In this HBR article, the author shares three simple approaches to enhance three specific aspects of emotional intelligence: #selfawareness, #selfregulation, and #positiveconnections. If you haven't yet then try exercising: ➡️ Assessment of bodily sensations, ➡️ Cognitive load, and emotional states; ➡️ Strategic breathing exercises; and ➡️ Authentic, intentional acts of kindness and understanding. What do you do to increase your EQ?

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Are you ready to elevate your feedback skills so you can be a more effective leader of your diverse team? 🚀 Join me on July 16 from 12:00 - 13:00 CET / 19:00 - 20:00 JST for a brand new Masterclass! 💫 As a leader do you feel: ⚡ You have to package negative feedback and risk to dilute your message? ⚡ You soften the message because you want to keep your team members motivated? ⚡You just want them to do better? ⚡ You meet a lot of resistance and justification from the person you are giving feedback to? This Masterclass has been created to support you! We will deep dive into how we can enhance giving feedback, improve processes and outcomes, and establish regular update and feedback sessions to keep you connected to your team. Effective communication is crucial, especially when working with people from different cultures. Join the Masterclass to improve your feedback skills and become a more inclusive leader of your diverse team. https://nuel.ink/6aBZT8 #HeikeGeilingCoaching #InclusiveLeadershipAlliance #ProfessionalDevelopment #FeedbackSkills Hello, I’m Heike Geiling, your Inclusive Leadership Expert and coach for leaders of diverse and international teams to bridge cultural gaps and improve performance, a certified intercultural trainer and founder of the Inclusive Leadership Alliance. Follow me for insights, strategies and tips for becoming confident in your inclusive leadership style, understanding the intricacies of leading diverse and international teams and learn how we can communicate with clarity and sensitivity.

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In coaching journeys, self-assessment tools have become virtually indispensable. But what if you are (or aspire to be) a nondual coach? Does it still make sense to use such tools? This raises the thought-provoking question of who, exactly, is doing the assessing. Interestingly, we've found that self-assessment tools can hold significant value in coaching, even for nondual coaches. Kat and I have found the NETI questionnaire particularly insightful. This tool, based on the work of John Astin & David A. Butlein, has been modified by us to be more accessible. Curious about where you stand in your understanding of nonduality? We invite you to fill in our adapted NETI questionnaire (takes about 4 min) to get a rough estimate. Link in comments.

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Hi everyone, so often coaches get asked to measure the success of their work, or even guarantee results. In the ICF sample contracts it is spelled out that the COACHEE and not the coach is responsible, since nobody can change someone else's behaviour, but still as coaches, with the best of intentions, we tend to grow attached to an outcome. It is natural and normal, after all why would we waste time on doing something that has no impact? But we can save ourselves some disappointment and heartache if at the same time we don't ever lose track of exactly how unpredictable complex adaptive systems are. Will van der Walt and I got reminded again this week - here are some of our insights about what we CAN do. https://lnkd.in/di2WVQMw #teamcoaching #systemscoaching #egoicChallenges

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🫀VARIABILITY AWARENESS 🌿 Leading: 🐾 Rhythms of Life Alignment of mindfulness practices with the strategic use of Heart Rhythm Variability (HRV) awareness represents a profound intersection of ancient wisdom and modern scientific research. Here, we explore practical approaches to enhance HRV awareness and the supporting research to serve leadership self-mastery. Mindfulness and meditation are central to enhancing HRV. Practices such as regular meditation focusing on breath and present-moment awareness can increase parasympathetic activity, promoting a calm and coherent heart rhythm (Tang et al., 2019). Biofeedback devices also offer valuable assistance in this regard. Affordable biofeedback devices that measure heart rate and HRV can help individuals become more aware of their heart rhythms, even though these devices are not perfectly accurate. They remain valuable for tracking variability and encouraging intentional modulation (Lehrer et al., 2020). The HeartMath Institute provides a wealth of techniques and tools designed to improve heart-brain coherence and HRV. Their practices include focusing on positive emotions and rhythmic breathing, which can be practiced with or without their specific devices (McCraty & Zayas, 2014). Additionally, breath control practices such as diaphragmatic breathing, paced breathing, and pranayama are effective for enhancing HRV. Regular practice of these techniques can improve autonomic balance and overall heart health (Russo et al., 2017). Further studies on heart-brain coherence reveal how positive emotional states can lead to more coherent and stable heart rhythms (McCraty et al., 2009). Research on practices that enhance HRV and heart coherence demonstrates improvements in emotional regulation, stress resilience, and overall well-being (Thayer et al., 2012). Evidence indicates that improved HRV and heart coherence can lead to better physical and mental health outcomes, including reduced risk of cardiovascular diseases (Shaffer et al., 2014). Cultivating Heart Rhythm Variability awareness and intentionally modulating it through mindfulness and other practices is a powerful approach to enhancing well-being. By leveraging affordable biofeedback tools and integrating these practices into daily life, individuals can achieve better emotional regulation, stress resilience, and overall health. The ongoing research and resources provided by institutions like the HeartMath Institute are invaluable in supporting these efforts. Be the rhythm section for your life soundtrack, and empower yourself with tremendous agency! Your heart will thank you. 〰️ #BioBlossoming #Cardiology #MindsetAgility #coherence #breathing #Mindfulness 🌿 #Wellness 🌸 #HRV 💓 #Meditation 🧘 #HeartHealth ❤️ #Biofeedback 📊 #SelfCare 🌟 #PositiveVibes ✨ #BreathControl 🌬️ #StressRelief 🌼 #MentalHealth 🧠 #Resilience 🌱 #EmotionalBalance ⚖️ #HealthyLiving 🍏 #InnerPeace 🕊️ #HolisticHealth 🌍 #LifeRhythm 🎶 #CalmMind 🧘‍♂️ #Wellbeing 🌺

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💫 Why the Inner Development Goals? ✨ 🙏🏻I have embraced the Inner Development Goals as a guiding star, an Inner Development sherpa: a new lens to bring into my daily life, and that has reflected in my #acting and in the impact I want to make in the world. 🧭 It is mirrored in my #relationships, in the way I make choices and in my #communication, choosing Non-Violent Communication. It has helped me through some very tough times last year, in the path to rebranding with Innerlead and most of all, it has given my personal practice an #innercompass. 🙌🏼 I can probably say that I embody the IDGs in a way that has helped me be #authentic in the world, it has helped me shed all the shells that I carried to protect myself before I achieved high levels of #SelfAwareness, and through daily practice, I can be be true to my deepest #values, and very #conscious in my decision-making. And it is a very simple practice that has helped me along the way: the moment I feel lost, or when I need to take a complex decision, I open my IDG Skill Finders and ask: "What IDG do I want to live by at this precise instant?" 🧘🏽‍♀️And this past year the skills I have chosen to practice the most have been #Presence, through meditative practices from which creativity emanates, and #Perseverance, to master skills that have been difficult to me. What are the IDGs that you choose to practice today? I hear you in the comments 👇🏼

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𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞💩 𝐡𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞🪭𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐝𝐝 𝐅𝐔𝐄𝐋 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 🔥 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦?   It’s Tuesday which means it’s time for another free tool giveaway, and this time it is the FUEL tool   This is a gentle coaching tool that often works well with senior executives or business leaders as it lets the coachee drive their own development and can feel less restrictive than other coaching practices   What does FUEL stand for?   𝐅rame the Conversation   𝐔nderstand the Current State   𝐄xplore the Desired State   𝐋ay out a Success Plan   More details on it are available in my blog https://lnkd.in/e7_37z88   ⁉️Would you give this a go or would you rather leave it to a professional⁉️   #Leadership #Management #Development #Growth #Support

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Authentic leadership begins with self-awareness. Every CEO should ask: Am I leading or merely managing? Leadership is about inspiring, not just instructing. Insight: Great leaders look in the mirror, not out the window, to find the root of success and failure. Action: Today, take 5 minutes to reflect on how you’ve inspired your team this week. Share your thoughts in the comments below!

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Notice how your computer becomes a pain to work with as time goes by? Viruses, outdated software and old programs slow it down. Without proper updates… it breaks down. Well, your brain works the same way. Here is how to REPROGRAM your brain for peak performance: Ps. Curious about Hypnotherapy for Entrepreneurs?  If you are ready to take the next step, book a complimentary strategy call in the featured section, where you will get a comprehensive view of your mental blocks and how to finally overcome them to realize the success you deserve. Time is your most valuable asset so let's close the gap to realizing your greatest potential.

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If you are struggling with work-related stress and burnout (or injury / aging), I encourage you to take 27 minutes to watch Philippe Isler's presentation. He offers a wonderful case study related to a police officer struggling with injury and burnout. So often our beliefs and memories(all energetic/mental imagery) keep us stuck in very stressful patterns without even recognizing the impact. Learning to identify and dissolve these limiting beliefs and traumatic memories can result in significant relief! #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #health #healing #healingtrauma #aging #burnout #injury #illness #mentalhealth #coaching #lifecoaching #counseling #psychotherapy #logosynthesis #logosynthese #HealthForAll #novascotia #healthcare #healthylifestyle

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