Here is what I learned from a young age: that being big and bright would cost me. I learned it from my family, from my friends, from society. The social contract we sign tells us that being likable is paramount, conformity equals safety, shining too bright is unlikable; that we don’t want to be show offs or too full of ourselves or god forbid make other people feel inadequate by believing we are great. When I first got sober, and for the first time in my life starting LIKING MYSELF, and…