Abusive Behavior - It's Never OK
It's never too late to say "enough!" - How to deal with an abusive relationship.
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Porn isn’t a reflection of your failure as a wife or partner. In fact, it has very little to do with you. If you’ve got a partner who’s addicted to porn it’s a problem for both of you and it needs to be dealt with before it damages your relationship even more. They may have a difficult time quitting and that can be hard on both of you. The first step, however, is talking openly. Helping him understand the pain you’re feeling can often be strong motivation for him to change his habits.
If you feel like the only real sexual satisfaction you can enjoy includes porn, you are wrong. And you are missing out on one of the best parts of life. Porn can’t compare to the excitement and intimacy of sex with someone you love. If you have resigned yourself to relying upon porn for sexual gratification remember - you deserve better. And so does your partner.
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We hear a lot about “living your own truth” and “making life your own.” While this sounds like a strong and independent way to live, sometimes those mantras can be used to justify bad behavior. People who want to rewrite history or live a fictional present are hard to reason with. If you recognize that someone you care about is trying to live a life based on lies then proceed with caution. It’s likely that somewhere inside they know what they're doing, but convincing them of this won’t be easy.
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There's a perception that quitting or walking away from something is a character flaw. Most of us want to have a “never give up” and “try harder” attitude. While that’s great for things like exercise or budgeting, it doesn’t always work well in relationships. Sometimes our best choice, and a true measure of character, is knowing when to move on. It can be really hard to see this at times because giving up feels like failure.
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We all have known this person or have seen them on Facebook. They're charismatic and may seem like they have friends, but they’ve really just surrounded themselves with people who are happy to feed their egos. Unfortunately, those who are willing to do that often find themselves abandoned and alone when times get tough or when they really need a friend. A friendship, or any relationship, requires give and take on both parts and it should be with someone who is as good to you as you are to them.
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Complaining to friends about your spouse or partner can feel good sometimes. And for some people sharing these complaints can feel like just being one of the girls or guys. But if you’re really having issues in your relationship your friends aren’t going to be able to resolve them for you. And sharing intimate details about your partner and relationship isn’t respectful of either one. If you truly want change you’ll need to talk to your partner and be willing to work together to fix things.
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Some abuse is obvious – bruises and broken bones are clear signs. But there are many abusive behaviors that can be hard to spot, even for the person being abused. Most abusive relationships start off normally enough and then little by little change over time. By the time the person being abused recognizes what’s happening – if they ever do – it can be very difficult to get out. If you see any of the signs above in your relationship it’s time to do some serious thinking about what to do next.
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We hear this a lot, don’t we? “Family first, respect your family, never go against your family.” It all sounds appropriate and admirable - I mean who can argue with the importance of family. But we can paint with a wide brush when we say this. We want all want to believe that families are full of love and have the best interest of their members in mind, but that’s not always the case. k it.
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We Verbally Abuse The Wrong People How come many of us verbally abuse the wrong people? The people we love, rather than the people we hate. It's easy to think of verbal abuse as something someone else does, but most of us have been guilty of it at some point if we're really honest with ourselves. Unfortunately, for some, verbal abuse becomes a habit, not just an occasional mistake.
LET’S TALK ABUSE…
Emotionally abusive relationships can be hard to recognize. Often the person living with the abuse doesn’t even realize it. The signs are subtle and far easier to mask than bruises or broken bones. For that reason people being emotional abused can live in those relationships for years without anyone knowing it. Don’t be afraid to reach out and provide support to someone you suspect is in an abusive relationship. For more information check us out at www.guystuffcounseling.com
One of the primary reasons for people staying in unhealthy relationships is that they don’t believe they can find or deserve anyone better. It's often the case as well, that people in these relationships have no idea they're being treated poorly. If you suspect that you, or someone you love, is in an unhealthy or emotionally abusive relationship, speak up. No one deserves that. For more tips check us out at www.guystuffcounseling.com
