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Julie Menanno on Instagram: "There are a few ways shame manifests itself in avoidant attachment, just as there are a few ways it manifests itself in the other attachment styles. This is one way….hiding emotions. This is not done deliberately. We typically will hide from others what we work really hard to hide from ourselves. It’s all the same hiding. We don’t want to view ourselves as shameful and we don’t want others to view us as shameful. Both roads lead to rejection and loneliness. In the process we feel disconnected from our full selves and disconnected from others (to varying degrees…some people carry a little shame, some people are consumed by it, and everything in the middle). Shame wants to hide itself and this is really what gets in the way of healing, more than anything else.
decolonizemyself on Instagram: "#Repost @kalendionpoetry Sometimes, neither is the toxic person. Sometimes, your triggers just don't play well together. Sometimes, when one stumbles, the other one trips, and you both fall victim to a landmine that was never disarmed. Sometimes the battles of your history leave the fields of your dreams filled with explosives. Sometimes, you leave the war, but the war doesn't leave you, and love becomes a casualty to wounds that haven't healed. facebook.com/artbykalen -Kalen Dion-"
Sadaf Siddiqi on Instagram: "This might surprise you: sometimes, the best way to improve your relationships is to change *your* own behavior in them. It’s tempting to think, “We would be in such a better place if only he/she/they did ___.” The truth is, you can’t (and shouldn’t) try to change others, especially your partner. This will leave both of you feeling more frustrated and less connected. That being said, here’s what I’m going to challenge you to think about: What are some ways that *you* may be contributing to the issues you complain about the most? Sometimes, you may be unintentionally contributing to the problem by: 🔅 Not expressing your concerns directly and then becoming resentful 🔅 Saying “yes” when you really mean “no” 🔅 Not asking for help and just expec
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "This is an extraordinarily effective tool for bringing up hard topics with anyone in your life. I’ve also included it in my book.❤️ #healthycouples #relationships #securelove #thesecurerelationship #relationshipadvice #emotionallyunavailable #emotionalsupport #emotionsmatter #emotionallyavailable #emotionalwellbeing #communicationiskey #marriage101 #marriagecoach #couplescoaching #traumarecovery #secureattachment #avoidantattachment #secureattachmentstyle #secureattachments #disorganized #disorganizedattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #avoidantattachment #attachmentstyles #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyle #anxiousattachmentstyle #anxiousattachment #attached"
![Jessica Maguire on Instagram: "To learn more about your nervous system comment the 🤯 emoji below and you’ll receive the direct link to my upcoming virtual event, Blow Your Mind: Neuroscience meets Nervous System.
Date: August 13th, 2024
Time: 10am - 11.30am (AEST - Sydney Time)
8pm - 9.30pm (EDT - New York)
*Replay available to those who register beforehand.
https://www.jessicamaguire.com/blow-your-mind
<—- [Swipe] Trauma can change your nervous system so that it’s harder to create & sustain nurturing relationships. When connection is missing from your life you may carry distress in the nervous system. Loneliness brings pain & it can also activate the sympathetic branch of your nervous system (fight-or-flight). This can leave you feeling both unhappy & unsafe 🥺
A chronic message of Nurturing Relationships, The Emoji, The Nervous System, Blow Your Mind, Nervous System, Flight, To Create](https://cdn.statically.io/img/i.pinimg.com/236x/98/61/88/986188da14a7bb8456661628d43e0ff1.jpg)
Jessica Maguire on Instagram: "To learn more about your nervous system comment the 🤯 emoji below and you’ll receive the direct link to my upcoming virtual event, Blow Your Mind: Neuroscience meets Nervous System. Date: August 13th, 2024 Time: 10am - 11.30am (AEST - Sydney Time) 8pm - 9.30pm (EDT - New York) *Replay available to those who register beforehand. https://www.jessicamaguire.com/blow-your-mind <—- [Swipe] Trauma can change your nervous system so that it’s harder to create & sustain nurturing relationships. When connection is missing from your life you may carry distress in the nervous system. Loneliness brings pain & it can also activate the sympathetic branch of your nervous system (fight-or-flight). This can leave you feeling both unhappy & unsafe 🥺 A chronic message of
Soul Guidance on Instagram: "Save yourself. Have the strength to let go of people in order to save yourself. Not everyone is going to be good for you, and sometimes you need to look at all the reasons why it won’t work out rather than focusing on the one reason why it will and letting that lead you. The doubts that you have in the beginning become the reason why everything shatters in the end. And it’s better to protect your heart rather than let it run wildly time and time again, causing itself grief. Remember this —if someone is meant to be in your life, even if you let them go to protect yourself, they will come back at a time when they’re good for you and you’re good for them. So, don’t force relationships. If it doesn’t feel right, then let it be and know that whatever is destined for
Dr. Nicole LePera on Instagram: "The other day I had a really interesting experience where I walked through a line coming from the bathroom. A woman got right in my face and said “excuse me”—clearly she wanted to provoke. Knowing I was just getting through a crowd I turned to her and said in a kind voice “oh I’m just walking through” with a smile. We made eye contact and I saw her look visually confused. And her posture changed. It was clear she wasn’t used to getting a neutral reactions. On my end instead of feeling defensive or annoyed I felt calm and relaxed. A simple misunderstanding or another persons bad day never needs to change our own. When someone’s being manipulative, what they’re saying is: I feel powerless. I feel unseen and unheard. And in order to release myself from this
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "Nobody likes feeling anger, but anger always has something important to say and needs to be heard. Those with anxious attachment have an especially painful experience with their own anger. They’ve had good reasons to be angry in life, and were left alone to deal with it on their own. On top of that, their bodies feel it in a big way. There is a way out by learning to listen to anger, validate it, regulate it, and communicate it assertively instead of reactively. This post can give you a little more insight into the relationship between anger and anxious attachment. #healthycouples #relationships #securelove #thesecurerelationship #relationshipadvice #emotionallyunavailable #emotionalsupport #emotionsmatter #emotionallyavailable #emotionalwellbeing #communica
Lexy Florentina Borja | Somatic Practitioner on Instagram: "Understanding capacity.. within ourselves and others…can have a profound impact on how we see ourselves and others. It’s easy to say “don’t take things personally” but as interpersonal beings, how can we aways truly do that without understanding the nuance and complexity that is the nervous system? Capacity varies - and capacity refers to how much space we have to be with something - both good things and hard things. For some of us, our capacity is quite large when it comes to feeling emotions, processing challenges, experiencing closeness and vulnerability. For some of us, it’s not as wide and we have a hard time with these things. Sometimes it’s goodness, joy and celebration that our capacity is limited on. No matter the c
Ancestral Habits☀️ on Instagram: "The more I learn about the many ways our species evolved to synch with one another in eerily cohesive and subconscious ways, the more I am convinced we are adapted for some crazy group collective where we existed as a single entity made of many bodies like a small herd or flock. Not only do our brain waves synchronize when we ‘click’ or ‘vibe’ with, but: 1) our hearts synchronize when we make music or walk together 2) our eyes read each other’s movements as a language to an impeccable degree whilst 3) our brains create the mirror neurons of each other’s movements, allowing us to mimic them. 4) In groups that sleep together, individuals take on a subconscious, unscheduled pattern of sleep/wake cycles where in one study over 20 days there were only 18 minu