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Go‑to expert on gender identity, Schuyler Bailar, offers an essential, urgent guide that changes the conversation.
Anti-transgender legislation is being introduced in state governments around the United States in record-breaking numbers. Trans people are under attack in sports, healthcare, school curriculum, bathrooms, bars, and nearly every walk of life. He/She/They clearly and compassionately addresses fundamental topics, from why being transgender is not a choice and why pronouns are important, to more complex issues including how gender-affirming healthcare can be lifesaving and why allowing trans youth to play sports is good for all kids. With a relatable narrative rooted in facts, science, and history, Schuyler helps restore common sense and humanity to a discussion that continues to be divisively coopted and deceptively politicized.Schuyler Bailar didn’t set out to be an activist, but his very public transition to the Harvard men’s swim team put him in the spotlight. His choice to be open about his transition and share his experience has touched people around the world. His plain-spoken education has evolved into tireless advocacy for inclusion and collective liberation. In He/She/They, Schuyler uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give us the essential language and context of gender, meeting everyone where they are and paving the way for understanding, acceptance, and, most importantly: connection. He/She/They is more than a book on allyship; it also speaks to trans folks directly, answering the question, “does it get better?” with a resounding yes, celebrating radical trans joy. Myth-busting, affirming, compassionate, and fierce, He/She/They is a crucial, urgent--and lifesaving--book that forever changes the conversation about gender.
- Print length384 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherHachette Go
- Publication dateOctober 17, 2023
- Dimensions6.4 x 1.25 x 9.4 inches
- ISBN-100306831872
- ISBN-13978-0306831874
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"Schuyler was the first trans person I ever followed on social media. He/She/They reminded me of why I hit that follow button years ago- because of Schuyler's ability to speak on gender in non-intimidating ways. I wish I had this book to guide my own journey years ago, but I am so glad it exists now. We need it!"―Dylan Mulvaney, actress, comedian, TikTok personality
"A wonderfully clear and convincing guide to comprehending and defending gender diversity."―Kirkus, Starred Review
"A smart and accessible discussion of gender and sexuality."―Publisher's Weekly
"This book is both a wonderful resource for readers who want to know more on these topics but aren’t sure where to start and for trans folks looking how to navigate coming out, dating, mental health, and more…Trans and gender-fluid teens will see themselves in Bailar's meaningful work, and cis teens will find essential information on being a good ally."―Booklist, Starred Review
"Courageous and heartwarming, He/She/They sheds light on the journey of gender discovery and acceptance. As a fellow advocate for transgender rights, I am inspired by Schuyler's unwavering honesty and resilience. His powerful narrative challenges societal norms, encouraging readers to embrace their authentic selves fearlessly. A must-read for anyone seeking understanding, compassion, and hope on the path to self-discovery."
―Jazz Jennings, [she/her], activist, television personality, and author“Tragically, it’s transgender people who find themselves most targeted and scapegoated by both evangelicals and right-wingers — especially when elections roll around. Trans activist and athlete Schuyler Bailar cuts through the smears in He/She/They, explaining why gender-affirming medical care is life-saving and how trans youth playing sports benefits all kids. Bailar’s book isn’t just for the ignorant; it also serves as a bible of trans joy.”
―The Advocate
“Wherever you are on the journey to understanding trans identities, issues, and advocacy, He/She/They will support you in having better, deeper conversations and connections.”―Book Riot
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- Publisher : Hachette Go (October 17, 2023)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 384 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0306831872
- ISBN-13 : 978-0306831874
- Item Weight : 1.25 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.4 x 1.25 x 9.4 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #29,735 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #15 in LGBTQ+ Demographic Studies
- #63 in General Gender Studies
- #83 in Sex & Sexuality
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About the author
Schuyler Bailar is one of the leading voices on LGBTQ+ inclusion. He is an internationally acclaimed educator, author, and advocate, and he is also the first transgender athlete to compete in any sport on an NCAA Division 1 men’s team. As an LGBTQ+ inclusion advocate and educator, Schuyler has spoken at hundreds of events and corporate engagements including USA Swimming, the NCAA, Microsoft, Qualcomm, Capital One, Facebook, Nike, the CIA, and many more. Schuyler’s current work includes his critically acclaimed middle-grade novel, Obie Is Man Enough, and LANECHANGER™, his groundbreaking Gender Literacy and DEI Learning Series.
In 2023, along with Hachette Books and Penguin Books, Schuyler released his first non-fiction book, He/She/They - How We Talk About Gender and Why It Matters to critical acclaim and celebrated relevance. He/She/They uses storytelling and the art of conversation to give us the fundamental language and context of gender so that we can meet people where they are and pave the way to understanding, acceptance, and inclusion.
As a transgender man, inclusion advocate, and LGBTQ+ educator, Schuyler Bailar is more than familiar with the myriad questions that come up. In He/She/They, he addresses them head on, such as why being transgender is not a choice, why pronouns are important. But this book is more than a book on allyship; many of Schuyler’s vast followers come to him for support; one of his most popular reels is speaking to a young trans person who asks, “does it get better?”
He/She/They is an essential, urgent, and potentially life-saving book that will change the conversation about gender identity and how we talk about it, moving us toward a more equitable future.
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